by Sarah Jenks on July 27, 2011
As we mentioned in Part 1 of this series, we’re on a mission to change the way you think about sex, your workouts and help you see how each can enhance the other. In Part 1, we explained how to manage stress through sex and workouts and feel more confident in your birthday suit. We saved the best for last though, read on as we cover how to boost your sex-drive and your moves, with exercise!
The Problem: I have success-drive, but no sex-drive.
As modern women, we have developed an incredible drive for success. We start companies, graduate at the top of our class, climb up the corporate ladder and run charities. We’ve been taught to use our minds, our reasoning, our drive (aka ourmasculinequalities) and commonly ignore our intuition, our gut instincts, our creativity and our emotions (aka our feminine qualities). There is nothing wrong with sharp reasoning and unwavering drive, but all of that intellectual action happens in our head and we easily lose touch with all the magic that happens in our bodies: the origin of intuition, creativity and, most importantly, sensuality. So, if you’re the kind of girl who’s kicking ass at work and not making waves in the bedroom, it’s probably because you’re too in your head, and not in touch with your body.
The Sexy Solution: Working out!
Exercise gets you in touch with your feminine side because feminine energy lives in your body. Moving, sweating and getting the blood flowing will get you very connected to the energy and beauty of your body. When you stop living your life from the neck up, you can tap into your feminine energy, your sensuality, your creativity and naturally raise your libido. Best workout to build sensuality? Dance.
The Problem: I’m never quite sure if I’m doing the right thing.
A lot of women bog themselves down in comparisons. The silliest part? Often we aren’t even sure what we’re comparing ourselves too! We’re just “positive” it’s something better. This mentality has got to go.
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by Sarah Jenks on July 20, 2011
Originally posted on The Beauty Bean
In this two-part article (Part 2 will be up next week), we’re going to change the way you think about your workouts and your sex life and reveal the many ways in which the two are intertwined. By the time we’re done with you, your appreciation for both should be at an all time high. And, we’re pretty confident you’ll be approaching your next sweat session, be it at the gym or in the bedroom, with greater gusto than ever before!
How Fitness Can Boost Your Sex Life
The Problem: I’m too stressed to have sex, plus I don’t have any time!
A lot of women have to-do lists a mile long, causing frequent (sometimes even chronic) stress. When stressed, our bodies release hormones meant to aide in our survival in a life-threatening situation. And while this response is adaptive in truly life-threatening situations, that fast-approaching deadline (no matter what your boss says) is far from life or death. Unfortunately, our bodies don’t know that and the surge in hormones can send our libidos plummeting.
The Sexy Solution: Fitness!
Exercise, which gets your blood flowing and your breath going, releases chemicals that counteract your stress response while also giving you a break from the daily grind. The result: you’ll not only set yourself up for a stronger sex-drive by reducing stress, but also you will begin a practice of making time for yourself. Plus, working out and having sex is the best way to “re-fuel” so that you’ll have the energy to spend on your busy life.
The Problem: I don’t want to be seen without my clothes (especially not with the lights on!)
As women, we often forget that beautiful and sexy are multifaceted. There is no cookie cutter definition of either. So if you don’t think you’re beautiful, if you don’t feel sexy when you look in the mirror without clothes on, ask yourself, “Why?” Is it because you don’t look like the airbrushed celebrities in your favorite magazine or because Cosmo isn’t calling you to shoot this month’s cover? To that we say, “Who cares?!” Dig deep and choose what’s beautiful and sexy about you-rather than accept what pop culture and multimedia dictates it should be. Why is this so important? Because it gives you the power and it plants the seed for confidence.
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by Sarah Jenks on July 12, 2011
Originally posted on Your Bella Life
I spend a wonderful part of my business working with women who are engaged to be married, and interestingly enough most of the women I work with are not super happy in their relationships. Being in a mediocre relationship can be a huge contributor to overeating because when something in your life is out of balance, your eating can get out of balance.
Most women believe that their relationship will magically improve when they lose weight so they put all of their energy towards dieting, but the reality is that if your relationship is just “ho-hum”, causing general apathy, distance and sometimes depression, you are never going to lose weight. So it is incredibly important to make spicing up your relationship a PRIORITY to achieve successful, lasting weight loss. To start things off with a bang this February, I am going to give you the scenario for a super steamy Valentine’s Day date, even if things usually feel flat. The goal is to go from feeling like an old married couple, to like two teenagers, madly in love.
So here’s what you need to do…
If you live with your boyfriend or hubby, when you go on dates (if you go on dates at all) you probably get ready together then go out. To spice things up, I want you to MEET your man at your destination, not go WITH him.
Get dressed when your man isn’t home, either before he gets home from work, or create sometime by suggesting he grab a drink with his buddies. If he sees the process of going from “Everyday Jane” to “Lady of the Night” the transformation isn’t nearly as shocking. And honestly, him watching you put on your pantie hose is a total buzz kill.
Tell him you are going to meet him at the restaurant or bar, or whatever your destination. Make sure he doesn’t see you all dolled-up before your date starts. Show up to your destination a few minutes behind your man and before you walk into the room, think about your sexiest attribute, stand up straight and strut into the room like you’re the hottest thing since sliced bread. Lock eyes with your man and calmly walk over, and give him the kind of kiss you gave him on your fifth date (comfortable but passionate-non of this grandma pecking crap).
I guarantee that your man is going to FLIP and more importantly YOU are going to feel a total rush of confidence, beauty and power. Hone that power all night long and find other ways to get that same thrill in the weeks to come.
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