I get a lot of emails every week from women asking if I have an hour to spare to talk to them about business. These women are trying to figure out what they want to do, how to leave their jobs or how to make their coaching practices flourish. I remember so clearly how panicked I was when I was starting my business, and I just wanted someone to give me all the answers.
When I get an email from someone who is desperate for help, I want to get in my car, drive to their house and show them how to do everything! We’ve talked about how I’m wired to want to help everyone, most of the time at the expense of my own sanity.
Unfortunately, in order for me to live more and weigh less, I have to put some pretty clear boundaries on my time so I don’t turn into a crazy person.
Here’s the thing, I’m not a business coach, but part of living more is having a job that excites and fulfills you – emotionally, creatively and financially. Because if you don’t, you’re gonna fill up on cookies and get your excitement from sneaking ice cream in the middle of the night.
You deserve to adore your job.
Whether you’re in a crappy 9-5, unemployed or a struggling entrepreneur, there are simple steps you can take in order to create the life and job you desire.
If you find yourself saying, “well, it’s easy for her…or…I have to stay in this job to support my family…I don’t have a rich husband to support me as I get going…I’m too young…I’m too old…” you get the idea. People who aren’t successful don’t have a lack of talent, they just have excuses.
When I started my business I was a 24 year old, a broke Manhattan girl with a med-student boyfriend. No fairy godmother, no trust fund, no experience, no contacts. Just me, my slightly overweight body and a desire to make something of myself. So if I can do it, you can do it:).
Today I want to give you a road map for how to leave your job and create your dream job. As always, I’m going to teach from what I know, being an entrepreneur, but know that these tactics apply to working for a company as well.
Is your job really worth leaving?
Sometimes, it’s not the job that’s driving you crazy, it’s who you are when you’re there. Is there a way to adjust your lifestyle within your job? What would you need to be happy there? Take a look at this blog post to get some ideas on how to love the job you have.
I had a client who told me she wanted to leave her job. When we dug deeper, we realized her mission was to plant gardens around her city. When she identified that she rather do that on a volunteer basis, she realized that her current job actually supported her dreams as opposed to prevented them. I instructed her to adjust her hours with her boss, working from 7am – 4pm instead of 9am – 6pm. Turns out she loved being there in the morning on her own, her boss loved that she had gotten so much done before he got into the office, and she was able to leave at 4 and get in 3 hours of gardening before dinner. Since this shift, she’s lost 15 pounds. Ahhmazing.
Get God/universe/buddah/soul/mother earth/inner guidance system on board with your plan
On Monday, Gabby Bernstein told you exactly how to manifest your desires. Even if it seems crazy, give it a whirl because I have honestly experience crazy sh*t when I follow Gabs protocol.
Don’t be vague.
If you’re telling yourself, “But I don’t know what I want!!” I’m calling bullshit. Sorry to be frank, but seriously, if you can breathe, you have desires. It’s not that you don’t know what you want, it’s that you think that what you want is either too much to ask, or impossible. There is no desire too crazy or complicated. I’ve always believed that dreams are put in your head as a road map for who you’re meant to become.
Not being clear on what you want is like calling L.L. Bean and asking them to send you any boots, just pick something! And then you get pissed when they send you navy rain boots in a size 7, when you really needed leather snow boots in a size 9.
To get more clarity, go back to the basics: journal, research, dream. What are your unique talents? What comes easily to you? What would you do for free? Danielle LaPorte just launched an incredible program called the “Desire Map”. I just bought my copy and I would HIGHLY recommend you buy yours today. Just click here to check it out.
Now, you gotta think about the money. What can you charge for what you want to do? Will people pay for it? How many clients/products can you sell? How much do you need to make your first year? How much do you want to make eventually?
If you want to sell cupcakes at $3 margin, and you want to make $50,000 in a year that means you have to sell at least 1,400 cupcakes a month, which is a whole lotta cupcakes! Do you really want to be spending that much time in a kitchen? Get out your calculator and start mapping out the money.
What’s your financial exit strategy?
When I left advertising, I figured out that I needed 6 clients a month to cover my monthly nut, and I guessed that it would take me 4 months to get 6 clients, so Jonathan took out some extra med school loans to float me for a few months. You can also save money, or get a part time job that allows you to focus on your venture at the same time.
You are a marketer first, and a coach second.
I spend 90% of my time writing, connecting with potential clients and spreading the word about my business. When you’re in business for yourself, you spend more time running your business than doing your craft, and that’s ok! The key is to hone your marketing skills so the process is enjoyable and fruitful.
I have been working with my business coach, Marie Forleo since I started my business, and I don’t know where I would be without her. Marie teaches women entrepreneurs marketing and lifestyle techniques to build their businesses. Every year she runs the most incredible marketing program on the planet called BSchool. If you sign up through me in February, you’ll be enrolled for free in my private group mentorship program for entrepreneurs. It’s gonna be a blast.
Get a mentor
When I was starting my business I knew I wanted to learn from the best, so I hired Jena La Flamme to be my coach and mentor. The key word here is “hire”. Most successful business women don’t have time to shell out free advice, but if you invest in them, they will invest in you.
Working with current and aspiring coaches is my favorite thing in the world! We get to work on walking their talk when it comes to their own eating and I get to help them launch or grow their business. What a rush. I wanted to give you a little inspiration from one of my mentees, Isabel Foxen Duke.
When I ﬁrst started my program with Sarah, I had already done a lot of work — a lot of therapy, a lot of coaching, and even an inpatient rehab stint at one point. I had done everything possible to “get over my food issues,” but I still didn’t feel like I had the answer – like I wasn’t fully ﬁxed.
Thus, I was indeﬁnitely on the search for “the cure” to emotional eating and I was convinced I couldn’t go after what I really wanted in life until this mythical “ﬁxed” thing actually happened to me.
Talk about Waiting on the Weight! I totally held myself back – from dating hot guys, from enjoying cool clothes, and most of all, from sharing my experience with women suffering far more than I was – women who would one day ask me to be their coach.
Working with Sarah, I ﬁnally started taking action in both my personal and professional life. I started moving towards what I really wanted, regardless of my current weight, or what I thought my life “should” look like before coaching / dating / you-name-it.
Last month I launched my ﬁrst professional website, and booked three initial consultations within 4 hours of my launch. I am totally indebted to Sarah for her guidance in this venture, and for getting me clear that life comes ﬁrst — the weight is what follows.
I am just so proud of Isabel. Make sure you check out her free guide, How to NOT Eat Chocolate Cake (really fast. standing up. while your roommate’s not watching). It is equally helpful and hilarious.
I’ll be taking on 6 new clients in January for my re-mastered, super awesome VIP private coaching program. If you’re interested, shoot me an email, so I can put you on the first-come-first-serve list.
“If you were the best at what you do, how would you act, how would you treat your body and who would you hang out with” ~ Marie Forleo.
Marie asked us this question at RHH Live a few weeks ago and I fell out of my chair. It was so simple and yet completely life changing for me. Since then I’ve been working out daily, spruced up my apartment and work area, put more love and care into my blog posts, hired a personal assistant, started dressing better, got a monthly massage subscription and reached out to some badass women who once felt out of my league.
So how can you start acting like you’re the best in the biz? It’s amazing that the changes you have to make are probably in your personal life, not in your business:).
Whew! That was a lot. Now, if you’re stuck in a job you hate and you want to start making a move to create your dream job, I want you to take action this week. It can be so easy to come up with a million excuses as to why you should wait… I dont have enough money… I’ll just wait till the holidays are over… I should focus on losing weight first… But making this transition takes time, and wouldn’t it be awesome if you could start 2013 with a little momentum? You don’t have to quit your job tomorrow, but you do need to come up with a plan and execute the first step.
So here’s what I want you to do: on the comments below, I want you to tell me:
1. Do you have any tips for creating a job you adore? What steps have you taken that have been successful, or what advice have you gotten in the past the you can share with all of us.
2. What is the first step you’re gonna take to creating your dream job and when are you going to do it? I really want to help you get a move on in this area, there’s no better time than right now.
Can’t wait to chat with you!