Q&A with Gabby Bernstein

Last week I asked you to tell me what you were struggling with when it comes to your life and body.  I got the most incredible, heartfelt emails which have really inspired me to give you the most fun and effective advice I can give.One theme that was woven through a lot of questions was “How can I create my dream job? How did you become successful?”  Though I’m not a business coach, a huge part of “Living More” is loving your job, so this week I want to give you a window into what has worked for me.When I look back over the past few years, the steps I’ve taken can be broken down into two categories: spiritual and tactical.  Today I want to talk to you about the spiritual stuff, and on Thursday we’ll dive into the tactical.

The first 6 months of my business were slllooooow.  I had one client, a shitty website and had no idea how I was going to pay my rent.  Enter Gabby Bernstein.  I joined her group coaching program when it was just twenty women sitting in a circle on her bedroom floor.  It was the beginning of rich friendships, my spiritual journey and a growing business.

Gabby taught all of us the how to manifest.  Though I was used to working my ass off to get what I wanted, she proposed a simpler, more relaxing, faster option.  I thought she was crazy but I gave it a whirl.

Within two weeks I thought of a new business, booked a photoshoot (for free), got a wedding dress donated to me, found an amazing, fast and affordable designer, and booked 4 clients… and just like that, The Breathtaking Bride was born.  And all it took was sitting on my ass for 10 minutes a day and then following divine directions.

So as a special treat, I have an incredible Q&A from the manifesting maven herself, to teach you how to manifest anything you want.  This interview is chalk full of incredible advice so grab a pen and a cup of tea!

Me – You are a self-proclaimed manifesting maven. Can you demystify this topic for us? 

Gab- We are always manifesting. Each thought we have creates an energy flow within and around our physical being. This energy attracts its likeness. So if you’re thinking, “I suck,” then your energy kinda, well, sucks–and you attract sucky experiences.

The opposite experience occurs when you think high-level thoughts like, “I rock!” When you think and feel, “I rock,” you exude an energy of confidence and in turn attract great experiences into your life. Each thought you have informs your energy, and your energy manifests into your experiences. Your thoughts and energy create your reality.

Me – You talk about manifesting mishaps. Can you tell us more about this. 

Gab - Manifestation has become a buzzword lately. Though it’s totally awesome that the Law of Attraction is now trendy, it also can be a bit misleading for folks who are unwilling to do the heavy lifting. If you truly want to use your energetic power to manifest greatness, you must clear all that blocks you from believing in your greatness.

A Course in Miracles teaches that on some level, you’ve asked for everything that happens in your life. Your intentions create your reality. There’s no need to beat yourself up: simply recognizing how your low-level thoughts negatively affect your life is the first powerful step toward changing your experiences. Begin your manifesting process by getting honest about how your low-level thoughts, energy and feelings of disbelief block you from receiving what you desire. Once you get clear about the blocks, you can begin to clean them up to clear space for positive manifestations to occur.

Many people, when trying to manifest, focus too much on the outside form rather than the internal condition. From A Course in Miracles’ perspective, what’s important is our internal experience: whether we choose to experience love or fear. When we commit to our internal experience of love, we begin to attract more love. Many people approach manifestation from a place of “How can I get something to feel better?” Instead, the focus should be: “How can I feel better and therefore be an energetic match for attracting more greatness into my life?” The emphasis must be placed on healing the internal condition, not getting a hot new car or boyfriend.

Me – You have Five Principles for Manifesting Your Desires can you share them with us? 

Gab - Here are my five key principles for genuine manifesting. When practicing these steps, make sure to stay committed to the goal of feeling good first and attracting stuff second. Continue to remind yourself that when you feel good you energetically attract goodness into your life. When your primary function is to be happy, then whatever comes to you is irrelevant. Happiness is your true manifestation.

Principle One: Clear Space
Before you begin the manifestation process you must take the necessary time to release all your disbelief in your power to be happy. One of the best ways to clear the blocks of disbelief is to pray for release. Begin a daily prayer practice of asking the Universe to set you free from all the limiting beliefs that block you from believing in your greatness. Stay open for signs from the Universe and show up for the assignments that are brought to you. Universal assignments come in many forms. Maybe you’re guided to the relationship that brings up all your shit so that you have to finally heal your fear. Or maybe you lose your job so that you can learn the lessons of self-reliance and strengthen your self-love. Trust that these assignments, however tough at times, are incredible opportunities for you to clean your energy and clear space to call in what you desire.

Your job in this step is to pray for guidance to clear all that blocks you from believing in your greatness. Then allow the Universe to help guide you to whatever assignments you need to aid in the healing process. Show up for the assignments and trust that the more you clean your thoughts and energy, the more positive experiences you will attract into your life.

Principle Two: Get Clear
Clarity is king when it comes to manifesting your desires. You must have clear intentions for what you want to call in–otherwise you can manifest a lot of what you don’t want. Focus on what you desire and then make a list of all that goes along with it. If you’re getting clear about the job you want, make a list of all the things about the job that make you happy: the office, the people, the salary, etc. Be unapologetic about what you want. This list helps you clarify your intentions and access a vibrant mental picture of what you desire.

The most important part of this step is to clarify how you want to feel. When you get clear on how you want to feel, you can begin to access that feeling. That feeling is what makes the manifestation come into form. You can write a thousand lists and make a million vision boards, but if you don’t clearly feel what you want to experience, it will never truly manifest into form.

Principle Three: Think It, Feel It, Believe It!
Now let’s put these steps together. Take your clear intention and spend time every day sitting in the feeling of what it is that you desire. You might access the feeling through meditation and visioning exercises. Or call on the feeling when you’re in nature or doing a form of exercise you love. Let the thought inform the feeling and let the feeling take over your energy. The more you feel the feeling of what you desire, the more you believe it is on the way. From a metaphysical perspective, if you believe it then it is already here. So make time for contemplating, thinking, feeling and believing.

Principle Four: Chill!
The next step is crucial to the manifestation process. In order to truly manifest your desires into form, you gotta chill out! A Course in Miracles teaches: “Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety.” Take this message with you and allow your faithfulness to guide you into the belief that what you desire is on the way. Also trust that the Universe has a much better plan than you do. Though you are clear about what you want, you cannot control the timing or the form in which it comes. Stay calm, relax and trust that the Universe has your back!

Principle Five: Know the Universe Has Your Back
When you’re in the know you’re deliberate about what you want. When you’re in the know you no longer vibrate energy of fear or disbelief. You just know. As your disbelief wilts away, wanting is replaced by knowing. Getting into the know happens naturally. When you diligently practice steps one through four, you will clean house, get clear and feel happier. This process is healing and powerful, and it leads to a deep inner knowing that you are right where you need to be. Accepting your greatness in this moment, right now, is what manifests more greatness. Being in the know helps you accept that you already are living in your desired manifestation. When you feel it, you live it–regardless of what is happening on the outside. In time, the Universe catches up with your energy and your desires come into form. This process of allowing the manifestation to follow your internal faith is the true process of co-creation.

Stay Committed to Happiness 
Stay committed to this five-step process and trust that you’re exactly where you need to be. Is your main desire to feel good? Trust you will be given everything you need to create that feeling. Know that feeling good is the true manifestation–and everything else is the icing on the already delicious cake!

Me – Next week you’re offering a free course in Manifesting. Can you tell us more about this? 

Gab - If you want to learn more about Manifesting you can get two free video coaching sessions on the topic. Today (12/3) and 12/10 I’m leading a course called How to Manifest Your Desires in 2013! The course is free when you order my new book May Cause Miracles. You will also receive my guided meditations, audio book intro and Authentic Power lecture. To learn more about the course click here.

To pre-order the book and get your gifts & course click here.

So cool right?  I’ll be at Gabby’s SF launch on 1/10/12, if you’re in the area, I’d love to meet you!

Ok, I want you to take action on this. In the comments below, I would love to know what you think about this manifesting stuff, AND I would love for you to proclaim what you want to manifest in your life. Putting your dreams out there gives them life and allows all of us to cheer you on.

Excited to connect again on Thursday!

xo

Sarah