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Do you feel like a fat loser right now?

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I hope your entry into 2014 has been smooth and that you’re being gentle with yourself after weeks and weeks of being around delicious, celebratory food.

So here’s what I want to know, have you made a resolution?  Just bring it to the forefront of your mind for a second.  Now, I want to know, does this resolution feel like a punishment?  A punishment for overeating, being lazy, for having an unproductive year?

Maybe just a little?  I find that this is so common with resolution making – we pick something we suck at, something we need to change, and mask the self-hatred with a “positive” resolution.

But here’s the truth: when resolutions are driven by punishment, they never stick. You see, there’s a part of your soul that knows you are already a whole, fabulous woman, and when you or anyone else is inflicting punishment on you, she’s going to do everything in her power to shut it down.  Including convincing you that going to the gym is a really bad idea.  However, she looooves it when you have an intention for more celebration, more love, more play.

So what if your resolution wasn’t focused on punishment but on play?  What if the only resolution you had this year was to have more fun? Tweet it to inspire others to do the same.

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For me, because my only resolution is to have more fun, I’ve been imagining a year of spending quality time with my baby when he arrives in February, going on romantic dates with Jonathan, taking voice lessons and art classes, going to dance class, taking long walks with my girlfriends, cooking beautiful meals, meeting new moms, going on long walks with the baby with no destination in mind, sleeping in on the weekends, going on weekend getaways as a family, playing with the new design of SarahJenks.com and having my friends and family visit from out of town.

What I know for sure is that when you live a life that’s guided by fun you also:

-       Eat less because you no longer need food for entertainment

-       Work out effortlessly because you’re having a blast doing it

-       See your friends more

-       Have a more romantic relationship

-       Make more money

Sweet deal right?  Of course you can go on a diet, get a new gym membership or dedicate yourself to having sex four nights a week, but haven’t we all tried that before with no lasting success?

I want to invite you to try something different this year, to just have fun.

In the comments below I simply want to know, ARE YOU IN!? And what does your year look like when you make fun your number one priority?

You have no idea how great a year this can be.

Love,

Sarah

 

28 Comments

  1. Christine stephens · January 2, 2014 at 6:13 am · Reply

    I would love to be in, but need a guide to help me get there.

  2. Liz · January 2, 2014 at 7:36 am · Reply

    Oh, I am so in. It’s so hard to resist starting 14 huge endeavors right now, as a New Year’s / new page lover, but I’m trying to keep it simple and fun and positive too. I look forward to having fun with you!

  3. Kris · January 2, 2014 at 7:40 am · Reply

    OMG, Sarah!! I am so in for making FUN my number one priority for 2014! I had been toying with “resolutions” and did not feel excited about any of them. Until, that is, you suggested FUN! I burst out crying from the awesomeness of the idea, it filled my heart with joy and excitement. Thank you for being you and sharing yourself with us. Love you!! Here’s to an incredible 2014 ♥

  4. Julia · January 2, 2014 at 8:07 am · Reply

    I am so in! I am so glad to be done with punishing resolutions. I set my intention this year by having a girls night at my house where every friend left with a pair of wonderwan underwear ; )
    We are all busy mothers and career women that vowed to have more time for celebration and laughter.
    We are starting with Country Line dancing lessons this month. I plan to find more creative outings for my friends that help us lighten up. I finally stopped using my life stage as a busy wife and mother an excuse to be. Victim. Now where I am at is a creative catalyst for more play!

  5. Kristina · January 2, 2014 at 8:49 am · Reply

    I am so it! Thank you for what you bring to my life! You have certainly made a profound difference in it!!! I adore you my dear!!!

  6. Karla · January 2, 2014 at 8:51 am · Reply

    Ok, I’m in. I’m looking forward to having more fun in the coming year! For the first time in my life I did not make a resolution to lose weight, but I did decide to start the new year with gratitude. I’m grateful that we have everything we need, a wonderful family, and awesome freinds! Thanks, Sarah. Happy New Year everyone!

  7. leah · January 2, 2014 at 8:52 am · Reply

    love this. the word playful has emerged to the forefront of my mind, and something I’d like to let guide this new year. thank you for this message.

  8. Rachel @ casamarcelli · January 2, 2014 at 9:46 am · Reply

    Yes! Sarah, you’re right. I do feel fat and lazy right now. I’m kicking myself for gaining a few over the past months, and I’m feeling like I should have been able to jump into the disciplined life better this past week. I haven’t been gentle with myself and I haven’t let myself rest after the craziness of the holidays and seeing people 24/7. I need to give myself a break. I would give anyone else a break!

    Here’s my goal that’s related to fun: I want to enjoy my mornings. Which means getting up and having time for me – moving my body, taking a nice long hot shower, eating breakfast at home instead of the car. All healthy good-for-me things. But I don’t want to view them as punishment. Those are things that I want. Badly. I think I’ve been too focused on “I need to make this happen” though, so it’s not “I want this life.” But it feels more like punishment.

    Thanks, Sarah. Exactly what I needed to read today. Gonna come back to it a few times to mull over it over the next few days.

  9. Aeryn · January 2, 2014 at 10:06 am · Reply

    That’s exactly what my resolution is too. :DD Definitely have been looking forward to this year!!

  10. Michelle · January 2, 2014 at 10:12 am · Reply

    My kids, my husband and I made our vision boards yesterday which includes camping, traveling,hiking, starting a new business and focus on being healthy. We had so much fun doing it together as a family. And it was way better than buying a new gym membership and planning to torture myself!

  11. Annalicia Niemela · January 2, 2014 at 10:22 am · Reply

    FUN is one of my guiding values and PLAYFUL is one of my Core Desired Feelings. So, needless to say, I appreciated this post! :) With fun and play being priorities this year, I’m going to have to revaluate my relationship with productivity. Instead of overbooking my schedule and constantly working on crossing off things on my to do list, I intend to operate in a more spacious, flowing and intuitive way. I intend to be productive AND have fun. Be playful AND offer immense value to the world. I’m realizing it doesn’t have to be either/or. Yay! :)

  12. Beth · January 2, 2014 at 10:41 am · Reply

    I’m in! For me it would look like: cuddling with my husband every day, exploring the town where I live, walking or biking to work, having friends over and making them wonderful food, spontaneous times with others.

  13. Melanie · January 2, 2014 at 10:52 am · Reply

    I am in! My year looks like a tremendous success. I’d love to re-establish my real estate career in the communities near my home, run a 5k (yes, I joined a running academy), take a few short vacations to show my 6 year old more of the world, and spend time with my wonderful friends.

  14. Maddie · January 2, 2014 at 12:06 pm · Reply

    I’m in!
    Having more fun this year sounds like the best idea I’ve heard in a long time. I didn’t make a resolution for this year, but I did pick a word to focus on: GROWTH. I want a year filled with growth and I don’t see how that can happen without a little fun…every single day! I’m with you, Sarah!

    Hugs and Happy New Year!
    Maddie

  15. Lacy · January 2, 2014 at 12:20 pm · Reply

    This is SO TRUE. I’m focusing on my core desired feelings instead of on resolutions, one of which is elegance—and there’s nothing elegant about mindlessly scarfing down junk food! ;) Another is balance, and part of that is knowing that I need to make the time to move my body to feel in balance. It’s such a shift because it’s coming from a positive place instead of a negative one!

  16. Sunni · January 2, 2014 at 1:16 pm · Reply

    I love this and yes, I am in. I didn’t make any resolutions this year and since I knew I wasn’t going to I actually did okay over the holidays. Don’t get me wrong, I ate so much on Christmas I wasn’t hungry for almost two days. But I didn’t beat myself up and after Christmas went right back to only eating when I was hungry and moving my body and having fun every day. Knowing that I wouldn’t have this ‘starting point’ at the New Year I didn’t feel like ‘Oh my God, I have to eat everything right now because I won’t be able to have it in a few days’. It was amazing!
    I did decide to set an intention word for my year and I chose LIGHT meaning adding positivity and FUN to everything.

  17. Lisa · January 2, 2014 at 1:45 pm · Reply

    I am in!!!! Sarah’s program LMWL helped me to see that punishing myself is not the way to see the results that I want!

  18. Daria Zvirgzde · January 2, 2014 at 1:58 pm · Reply

    I am definitely in. Loved your statement that we tend to pick up something we suck at in order to become better. Totally agree that our only one resolution should be something that makes us every morning wake up with passion. I am all about strengths-based life. We should stop trying to become better in the areas we suck, but rather go and flourish in the areas that help us reveal our divine talents. Fun definitely is on the list.

  19. Amy · January 2, 2014 at 2:49 pm · Reply

    Oh I am so in! I’m wanting to have more fun this year to…have community be fun, and light. feeling AIVE more than ever!. So today I am going to head out and enjoy nature on a jog/walk. I am going to cook a fabulous dinner with my hubby and listen to new music! Thanks for the inspiration…xo

  20. Alyson · January 2, 2014 at 3:49 pm · Reply

    I’m in!
    I’m done with the guilt cycle resolutions bring. More fun will allow me to feel more free to follow what feels good and do more of it! It will support me in dropping my anxiety and stress; and tune into what my body really wants not my mind.
    Happy New Year Sarah!

  21. Ana Flores · January 2, 2014 at 7:40 pm · Reply

    Thanks to you Sarah, this is the first time my resolution had nothing to do with dieting or exercising. My resolution is to attend parties and family gatherings so I don’t miss out on any more FUNNNN!!!!! THANKS SARAH!!!! You were one of my biggest blessings in 2013. Wishing you peace, happiness and FUN this year. Can’t wait for your sweet pea to arrive :)

  22. Dianne Moore · January 2, 2014 at 8:26 pm · Reply

    Hey Sarah, I’m in! Every year I pick a word that embodies how I want to approach activities (dress, cook, love, work out, play, etc.) & relationships for the year. Past words included Creative and Focused, but this year I chose the word BOLD! LMWL really helped me look at my relationship with eating to address boredom versus seizing the moment and living life to the fullest. I’m so looking forward to my big bold year!

  23. bobbye · January 3, 2014 at 3:07 am · Reply

    I’m in. This is the first year in a long time that I haven’t resolved to lose weight…I want to be healthy!

  24. Jenna · January 3, 2014 at 3:56 pm · Reply

    FUN in 2014 is what it’s all about! Thanks Sarah I LOVE this. I feel a lot of pressure to join a new gym but I have downloadable workouts that I know I love and I like dance classes…so no thanks gym maybe when it’s fun but not right now.

    Also I’m planning my own show for February and that’s been A LOT of fun to plan!

  25. Amelia @ Eating Made Easy · January 7, 2014 at 4:11 pm · Reply

    I LOVE the idea of a resolution to have more fun. I feel like it could easily have the effects of leading to more success, more opportunity and more of everything else we all want! This is such a genius idea, and I so appreciate you sharing it!

  26. Jill · January 7, 2014 at 5:33 pm · Reply

    I have made a few resolutions but yes after the LMWL program they are way different from previous years. This is the first year in like forever that I don’t have “I resolve to lose 50 lbs”.

    Instead my resolve is to work on my painted picture. I want to do more with my life. My resolve is to live – really live. My first task of 2014 was booking my flights to join my husband in PNG for 2 months – my second task was booking my trip to Dallas for a nursing conference I have wanted to attend for ages, my third task was confirming our trip to Mexico in May to celebrate our 30 years of marriage.

    After all the trip planning, I also enrolled in a mini triathlon (May 3rd) to help me get motivated to train for my Ride to Conquer Cancer of 200 km in August.

    I have also committed to writing at least once a week to my blog “Journeying thru the Seasons”.

    Thanks Sarah for providing the road map to changing my life!

    Jill (W)

  27. Sara Mazenko · January 10, 2014 at 3:57 pm · Reply

    FUN! so in! love this idea and inspiration Ms. J! XOXOXO

  28. Jennifer · January 12, 2014 at 8:32 am · Reply

    I am in! In fact I started to focus on more fun during LMWL last fall. Ladies — it works! I just had to get over feeling a little selfish for doing so (which I did pretty quickly). it can change your whole view on life. One little thing I did recently was garner the yoga name of Guenivere from which my real name is derived. One of my instructors started it. It’s a small thing but it is just for me and I love it! Go forth and have fun.

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