Three steps to loving the job you have


As I mentioned last week, February is all about business and career.  The reality is that we spend 80% of our waking hours at work, and if we hate our careers, then we’re going to eat our faces off all day just for a regular hit of entertainment and a much needed break.

When I did Live More Weigh Less Mastery this past fall, we spent A LOT of time talking about how our jobs are the main source of our misery and emotional eating, so I coached many women not only in finding a job they love, but how to love the job we have.

We’re going to have a little Throwback Thursday action to cover this incredibly important topic: How do we learn to love the job we have?

Even if you’re looking for a new situation or starting your own business, it is still important to know that you can change the way you feel at work, as soon as tomorrow.  All you have to do is follow the steps below…

Learn your co-worker’s dog’s name.

Do you know the names of your co-workers kids? What they’re up to this weekend? Have you ever gone to drinks and made a point to not talk about work?

No? Start getting to know the person in the next cubicle. Real human connection makes our days more meaningful and helps them go by super fast.

Take time for yourself besides the detour to the candy bowl.

The 10 minutes you spend deciding between Wheat Thins and Oreos in the break room does not count as a break.  Normally the only breaks we take during the day are to eat, and that’s usually because we feel guilty for pausing, or we honestly have no idea what to do.

Instead, bring in a stack of magazines to work to peruse throughout the day, open the window and take 10 deep breaths, check out your fave blog, walk around the block, or get a 10-minute back massage at your local nail salon (this one helped me lose my first 15 pounds).

One time, when I worked in advertising, my boss came up to me when I was reading Martha Stewart Living at my desk and said sarcastically, “working hard I see.”  I responded politely by saying, “I’m actually two days ahead of schedule on my projects for you and I find that when I rest my brain for a few minutes I produce much better work. While you’re here, is there anything else you’d like me to do for you?”

I never got shit for taking a break again.

Spruce up your space

Your mood, productivity and happiness is directly linked to your environment.  If you’re spending 80% of your time in an ugly, messy, dark, depressing office or cubicle, then you’re gonna be ugly, messy and depressed.  Brighten things up!  Organize your papers, buy pretty folders, put fresh flowers on your desk.  The prettier your space, the prettier you will be.  I’m serious, give it a shot.

This is my ultimate dream office. Every week I try to create this feel in my home office so one day I can have something that looks exactly like Drew’s from Domino Magazine.


Alright, I know it can be so easy to just passively go through the motions of your day and do things like you’ve always done them, but if you really want to start liking your job and stop feeling the need to snack all day, then you need to follow the 3 steps above.

To keep yourself accountable, I want you to post the three things you’re gonna do next week in the comments below, so we can all cheer you on.

I know that if you get to know the people around you, take fun breaks and spruce up your space that your work is going to start being fun and fulfilling even if you currently hate your job.

I can’t wait to hear about your plans!



P.S Marie Forleo released two more videos in her free training and they are AH.MA.ZING.  Click here to give them a watch.



  1. Rajdulari · February 13, 2014 at 10:58 am · Reply


    I rarely post comments on anything, but I read your emails every week. And I have to say this blog post about Loving Your Job REALLY resonated with me! I am transitioning to a new job in a couple of weeks and am having a hard time smiling while still being in my old position. This post today reminded me to create a positive outlook in my mind and throughout my daily job. To that end, I’ve already started organizing my desk, but I will find a plant or a flower. I’ll also reach out to my coworkers more to connect and try taking REAL breaks instead of just the usual dash away from my desk for lunch :). Have a great day! R

    • Sarah Jenks · February 13, 2014 at 11:44 am · Reply

      Rajdulari, I’m SO happy to hear that. Good luck with the next few weeks. The way you finish one thing is the way you will start the next.

  2. Jillian @ Baby Doodah! · February 13, 2014 at 11:03 am · Reply

    I love this post! I just have a question for you, what’s your suggestion for taking breaks if you have a job where things are always cycling, and there’s no way to get ahead? I find that to be one of my biggest challenges, I don’t stop working from the moment I walk in the door until I leave in the evenings, and I’m still not ahead. I’m a supervisor of 16 staff members, so my work literally never ends.

    I’d love your input!

    • Sarah Jenks · February 13, 2014 at 11:47 am · Reply

      Jillian, sounds like you need an assistant! Or that you need to delegate more. Take an honest look at where you’re over doing, or taking on too much responsibility. Remember that it’s your staff job to manage their time, not yours. Is everyone pulling their weight?

      I also would love for you to see if perhaps taking a break helps you get MORE done. Just try it for a week, if things fall apart you can go back to the way things were, but I’m guessing you’ll feel more relaxed and get more done faster.

  3. Jean · February 13, 2014 at 11:10 am · Reply

    Quit my job. I work 10 hrs a day. I drive 1.5 hrs to and from work. Have know quality of life and I work with a boss that don’t appreciate anything I do and is critical of everything I do. I’ve been with this company for 10 years, She ‘s only been there for 4 weeks and its beyond ridicules.

    But, I love, love, love, your website for making me see that I do matter! Please keep inspiring women to do greatness. I pray that one day you will work with me. Trying to come up with a business ideal. I wished you franchise, you business is AWESOME!! I’m a fan forever!

    • Sarah Jenks · February 13, 2014 at 11:49 am · Reply

      Jean, it definitely sounds like you need a change of pace:). Though I won’t be franchising;) I really encourage you to start your own practice if it’s resonating with you. Believe in yourself! In the meantime, see where you can do one small thing at work to make it more manageable. xoxo

      • Jean · February 13, 2014 at 11:54 am · Reply

        Thanks Sarah! You are right, I need to believe in myself and move forward!

        • Lisa · February 13, 2014 at 2:18 pm · Reply

          But you really should consider franchising…. #justsayin :-)

          • Jean · February 13, 2014 at 7:15 pm ·

            Thanks Lisa! LOL

  4. Lisa · February 13, 2014 at 11:12 am · Reply

    Okay I just put an Elle magazine and a pretty vase in my bag to take to work today. Love it!

    • Sarah Jenks · February 13, 2014 at 11:49 am · Reply

      YES! Way to take action.

  5. Renee · February 13, 2014 at 11:38 am · Reply

    This is absolutely so true. I was just discussing with my friend that my life is so cluttered at work, home, and in my car. I am going to organize, add some more beautiful things, buy a comfy, funky chair for my office. I was just asked to move to a different location. I will need to figure out if I can have 2 offices. Scary but I honk it is time for me to jump. Thanks for posting.

  6. NB · February 13, 2014 at 12:01 pm · Reply

    Between you and Marie Forleo today, you’ve given me lots to think about! I worked a corporate job for the first 8 years of my career and would only be happy with it for the first year or so. My husband and I had to move across country for his career in Summer 2012 and I started my own business 6 months later, but I don’t love it either. Actually, most days I kind of hate it and I can’t figure out why. Compound that with a 25lb weight gain during the move that I can’t seem to lose and infertility issues and I’m a hot, confused mess. Keep the emails coming! They at least keep me motivated to figure things out :)

  7. Natacha · February 13, 2014 at 12:31 pm · Reply

    Perfect timing!
    I just bought valentine’s day gifts for my female colleagues and I intend to have some time and space tomorrow to open the discussion about how they are feeling in their love life or family if they want to.
    In a cure of long winter and lack of sun I also decided to go for a 10 or 15 min outside when sun is nice enough to come shine in the day so I get my 15 min of sun per day AND a break not in front of my computer!
    Third step would be to order my office by throwing up all unnecessary stuff but also my computer wall.

  8. Sunni · February 13, 2014 at 12:55 pm · Reply

    As always, your posts are so perfectly timed for me. I almost just had a panic attack during a meeting. I’m going to go buy myself some flowers to put on my desk while I’m on my lunch break today.
    I’m also going to be updating my resume.
    So, my three things are: updating my resume, begin job search and buy myself flowers. :)

  9. RavieNomNoms · February 13, 2014 at 2:32 pm · Reply

    Awesome suggestions!! I actually just went through and cleaned my desk and made it more organized which made a HUGE difference in my mood. I was shocked! I try to decorate festively, but would love to add some flowers to my desk. Maybe a potted plant :-)

    I normally try and learn as much as I can about the people around me. It is nicer and brings a lot more friendliness to the team :-)

    I try to get a walk when the weather is nice to get out of my office for a while but during the winter I need to find something to give myself a break.

  10. Kim · February 13, 2014 at 2:40 pm · Reply

    I am feeling so past the point of these small things helping – but I think they are great ideas for those who still like at least 50% of their job. I have felt undervalued and annoyed every day for way too long! I have stayed because I am a new mom with a dream of having my own business, so I thought holding on to this easy paycheck was the right thing to do. But “easy” has become way too soul crushing and de-motivating. I have started looking for something new because even if I have to put in more hours and more effort, I think the energy change will make me a happier mom and more motivated to work on my business ideas. Thanks for all your inspiration, Sarah! You’ve helped me start saying yes to myself!

  11. Kyra joy · February 13, 2014 at 4:35 pm · Reply

    I worked for my father and aunt for 12 years. I finally have my own office. I painted it a pretty blue and I am having n artist design wall art. It will be so nice.

  12. Rebecca · February 14, 2014 at 11:00 am · Reply

    Sarah- I love your blog and this came at a great time for me however, I need to add a few questions. What do you do when you already cover all of those things you mentioned? I make my workspace incredibly comfortable and get compliments about it from others in fact, I know all about my collegeues personal lives and plans, and I take breaks when I can…I am still not able to shift my thinking. What next, how do I find a happy medium?

    Feeling like there are 1000 things I’d rather be doing and not knowing how to move forward or change my thinking.

  13. Kristin · February 16, 2014 at 6:18 pm · Reply

    One of the things that is tough for me with the suggestions is that I work from home – I work for a large organization, not my own business, so it can be the best and worst of both worlds! It’s easy to feel isolated through the day, and a break can turn into dishes really quickly. I do like having more office space to work with, but it less “mine” in someways than if it were a cubicle in an office. Sarah, I’d love your spin on this situation as well as anyone else who’s been through it!

  14. Jeanne · February 17, 2014 at 8:12 pm · Reply

    Wow Sarah! I just read the comments section. Look at how you are impacting Happiness! YAY for you and your readers!YAY!

  15. ajrmama · February 17, 2014 at 10:04 pm · Reply

    SUCH a good read. I just started a job, and I already know it’ll be difficult not to snack with all the food festivities they have and sitting in a cubicle attached to a phone…but I’m going to bring pretty things in, and make sure I walk outside on my breaks, no matter what. I know it’s better refreshing myself with air than snacks. :)
    I’m getting really tired of being this weight but having no willpower to stop it…hopefully staying here and reading will help.
    Thanks Sarah!!

  16. Catharine · February 19, 2014 at 6:58 pm · Reply

    Sarah, I just posted on this a couple of weeks ago! I agree that getting to know your co-workers and making your work space are incredibly important to day-to-day happiness. I also suggest taking note of all the positive things about your job, even the tiniest things, and exploring ways to become engaged in work again. Love your suggestions. Here’s my post, in case you’re interested. http://catharinezurbrugg.com/if-you-cant-be-a-job-you-love-like-the-one-youre-in/

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