I pride myself on being an independent and driven woman. I bet you’re the same way. And I often try to do things on my own, almost to a fault. Leaning on others and asking for help is hard for me. I feel like I should be the one who has it all together. I mean, I do this for a living!
But things were getting worse and worse (more on what I’m talking about at the end of this email) and I knew I wasn’t going to make any changes on my own.
I called my friend Jadah Sellner and asked her if she would be my accountability partner in going to our favorite hip hop studio in Oakland. We had been together a few times, both of us always had intentions of going, but never seemed to make it a regular thing. Turns out she needed me as much as I needed her. Once we made plans to go, I couldn’t cancel because I knew she was depending on me.
I was late to the class because there was more traffic than I anticipated on the 30 minute drive, so I snuck in and found a spot in the back. There was Jadah with a big hug, smile and slap on the ass.
As soon as the first song came on, Justin Bieber’s “Sorry”, I was crying.
The tears were triggered by my body’s elation and relief of moving in a feminine and free way. It’s like every hip shake, every shoulder pop was an invitation for my old self to come out.
Going to dance wasn’t about learning hot moves or getting a tighter butt, it was therapy. It was calling me back into myself and waking me up. Since that first class I make the long trip two to three days a week and Jadah always joins me for at least one class a week.
Here’s what I need you to know. Dance isn’t just dance. Lipstick isn’t just lipstick. Flowers aren’t just flowers. These seemingly meaningless, even shallow things, can be so easy to pass up, but these tiny details have significant impact. They are little phone lines to your most self-expressed, live-out-loud, fulfilled, alive self. It’s important. I don’t want you to lose that part of you.
I’m surprised at how the seemingly small changes made such a big impact on my thoughts and feelings. I have already found a little more happiness with myself. I have found myself feeling happier overall, being more positive, and just feeling overall better about my life. I honestly can’t even put completely into words the impact this challenge has had on me so far. I’ve had a really hard time committing to other types of “weigh less” challenges in the past and it taught me that it was okay to lie to myself. That’s a horrible thing – knowing that you can lie to yourself and it will be okay. But this challenge – the one I said I would commit to no matter what was thrown at me – has renewed my faith in myself. I CAN stick to something when I really want to, despite all other things in my life. I needed this reminder of how to really commit to me. ~ @angiesmitchell
When we have a lot going on, which I know you do, it’s impossible to make these things a priority, so you need an accountability partner, or three. Someone who maybe needs you as much as you need them. Someone who will tell you, “YES, leave the laundry and come to dance with me.” Who is that for you? Forward them this email now.
On June 6th I am leading my 5th Live More Challenge, a totally free experience that gives you a small thing (with big impact) to do every day for two weeks to wake up that radiant, alive, adventurous woman inside of you, and I want you to do it with a friend. If you can’t think of anyone to invite, don’t worry, there are thousands of women who are excited to do this with you, you’ll meet them once you sign up on this page.
Thank you, Sarah Jenks, for offering this challenge. It has been an illuminating two weeks. I am so grateful for the opportunity to explore some new ideas and behaviors. The social aspect of this challenge was fantastic. Daily, I found myself inspired by the risks taken and ideas explored by the other participants. It has been a joy. ~ @Tangerine_ginger
- Find me @sarahjenks on instagram and follow me.
- Find the post of me and Jadah that looks like this.
- In the comments section tag up to 3 friends to join you in the Live More Challenge.
- At the end of the challenge we’ll be selecting a winner of our scholarship to Live More Weigh Less Mastery. If you win, the women you tagged in this post will also get a scholarship. If one of the women you tagged wins then you and the other women you tagged get a scholarship. Get it?
My beliefs about myself color all of my choices. Feeling that I deserve to take time for myself has been half the battle. The beautiful thing is discovering that if I do take that time, if I truly pay attention , small things make a huge impact. I have really struggled in my life looking for other people to tell me I have worth, that I am lovable and that I matter. I have been working on getting that acceptance from myself. This challenge has put so much of that work into action. I am truly amazed at what a difference it is making. Thank you @sarahjenks! ~@jdale3wkg
I’m so excited to have you and your friends in the Live More Challenge. You can sign up now by clicking on this link.
P.S. Here’s a few incredible results women experienced from the challenge:
Hi Sarah! I’m new to your community but my introduction couldn’t have come at a better time. I’m a 31 year old SAHM to a 4 year old little girl. In August–after 2.5 years of secondary infertility–I learned that it is no longer possible for me to get pregnant. While this didn’t come as a complete surprise, it was still quite a blow. It is a hardship for my husband and me, and recently the grief was really starting to strangle my heart. I could feel myself withdrawing from my beautiful life. I was (am) struggling existentially and grasping for anything to find purpose and meaning, or, at the very least, spark personal growth. Then randomly (or perhaps not?) your “Live More Challenge” came across my news feed. I had no idea what the challenge would entail but I didn’t let that stop me…I signed up straightaway. I was a little unsure about what to expect but after receiving your email with the details, I couldn’t help but smile. Each day I find myself looking forward to the next day’s challenge. And after only 3 days, I can honestly say that I can already feel the darkness starting to lighten. So this is a sincere, heartfelt thank you. A thank you for giving me the perfect jumping off point to my journey of self discovery. A thank you for giving me a community of women to seek help and support. A thank you for challenging me to take care of myself when I seemed to need it the most. A thank you for being a ray of light.
I am really looking forward to the rest of the challenge and to becoming inspired by you and other beautiful women along the way! Cheers!
You have no idea how happy I am to have found your account! You are beautiful and I adore what you’re teaching! I’ve allowed my weight to dictate EVERYTHING for soooooo long and recently made the decision to really and truly change my thinking. I feel free for the first time in years and I want to radiate happiness and love, not self consciousness and self loathing. I’ve been working on all of it and to find another like-minded gal like you is awesome!! Thank you! ~ @lemmonkisses
Thank you @sarahjenksfor opening our eyes to a much bigger world. You have shown us that no matter how much crazy there is in our life, we should be the star that shines the brightest. We can all trust ourselves a little more and be happy with ourselves a little more, and most of love ourselves a lot more! It’s been a fun journey! ~@mcovey83