I feel embarrassed to tell you this, but working out has felt close to impossible for me since having kids. Finding the time between running a business, being a good mom and seeing my friends is really hard. But I knew deep down that I needed to move my body for reasons that go way beyond losing weight.
I pride myself on being an independent and driven woman. I bet you’re the same way. And I often try to do things on my own, almost to a fault. Leaning on others and asking for help is hard for me. I feel like I should be the one who has it all together. I mean, I do this for a living!
But things were getting worse and worse (more on what I’m talking about at the end of this email) and I knew I wasn’t going to make any changes on my own.
I called my friend Jadah Sellner and asked her if she would be my accountability partner in going to our favorite hip hop studio in Oakland. We had been together a few times, both of us always had intentions of going, but never seemed to make it a regular thing. Turns out she needed me as much as I needed her.
Once we made plans to go, I couldn’t cancel because I knew she was depending on me.
I was nervous to get back on the dance floor. I danced growing up but my body was such a mess after having two kids in two years. Everything jiggled, my balance was off and I had no spring in my step. Not to mention I had no access to my sexiness, kind of a key to hip hop:/.
I was late to the class because there was more traffic than I anticipated on the 30 minute drive, so I snuck in and found a spot in the back. There was Jadah with a big hug and slap on the ass.
As soon as the first song came on, Justin Bieber’s “Sorry”, I was crying. Yes, it was embarrassing.
The tears were triggered by my body’s elation and relief of moving in a feminine and free way. It’s like every hip shake, every shoulder pop was an invitation for my wild, sexy, confident self to come out. I missed her.
Going to dance wasn’t about learning hot moves or getting a tighter butt, it was therapy. It was calling me back into myself and waking me up. Since that first class, I make the long trip two to three days a week and Jadah always joins me for at least one class a week.
Here’s what I need you to know. Dance isn’t just dance. Lipstick isn’t just lipstick. Flowers aren’t just flowers. These seemingly meaningless, even shallow things, can be so easy to pass up, but these tiny details have significant impact. They are little phone lines to your most self-expressed, live-out-loud, fulfilled, alive self. It’s important. I don’t want you to lose that part of you.
“I would just like to say how these challenges have been like therapy for me. Since becoming a mom, I really don’t take time for myself out of the day. I don’t slow down and I need to. Thank you for doing this challenge for all of us Sarah Jenks. Thank you for reminding me that I’m valuable and need to enjoy life and the little things.” ~Pamela
When we have a lot going on, which I know you do, it’s impossible to make these things a priority, so you need an accountability partner, or three. Someone who maybe needs you as much as you need them. Someone who will tell you, “YES, leave the laundry and come to dance with me.” Who is that for you? Forward them this email now.
Tomorrow, I am leading my 6th Live More Challenge, a totally free experience that gives you a small thing (with big impact) to do every day for two weeks to wake up that radiant, alive, adventurous woman inside of you, and I want you to do it with a friend. If you can’t think of anyone to invite, don’t worry, there are thousands of women who are excited to do this with you, you’ll meet them once you sign up on this page.
“Sarah Jenks, you are such an inspiration. I pray that your light will shine on and keep doing these challenges because every women needs to know she is worth the happier version of herself. The program that you have created gives us the road map to that happy. Hugs and love.” ~Shon
“Loving the challenge & appreciating your flawsomeness ♡ I am having so much fun with my little family. Red Lippy was fierce & I love how this challenge is gradually peeling away my hurts. With your help & support of these amazing women, I no longer feel alone ♡♡♡♡ BIG (((HUGS))) to you Sarah Jenks ♡♡♡♡.” ~Marci Lynn
I’ve been going to dance regularly and I feel completely different. I have more energy, I’m less blue and foggy, I feel sexy, my relationship is better, and I just feel more like me. Yes, my body is also changing but that doesn’t even compare to how incredible I feel. If it weren’t for Jadah and committing to something so simple together, my life could have kept going in a downward spiral.
I’m so excited to have you and your friends in the Live More Challenge. You can sign up now by clicking on this link.
And if you do every challenge you’ll be entered to win one of 3 scholarships to my signature program, Live More Weigh Less Mastery and a $500 Anthropologie shopping spree. Click here to enter: http://livemorechallenge.com.
PS. Here’s a few incredible results women experienced from the challenge:
“Stop Waiting…Final Day of the Live More Challenge and I have LOVED absolutely every minute of it. Sounds trite but it has truly saved my life. From starting each day wondering why to tears and laughter and so much love in my heart. A fullness that I have not experienced before. Live with intention, listen to your heart and don’t hold back. I love you. These words have resonated with every single vibration of my soul. I am so excited to be joining the Live More Weigh Less Mastery Program today as my next and greatest step to stop waiting. I did not truly believe how much I have put on hold in my life until I am ‘good enough’…I don’t even know what that goal was for me and how I would finally know I was good enough. And good enough for who exactly?? People in my life sincerely love me for who I am but before now I have never fully trusted or appreciated that. I’ll be a better wife and friend when I feel less broken…do it now! I’ll hold my exhibition when I feel more confident…do it now!! I’ll learn to dance and laugh and will sing in front of a crowd when I am more beautiful….DO IT NOW!!! I will say YES when I am good enough…that time is now. The time to stop caring about the opinion of others is now…and I am excited and scared but I am ready.” ~Kylie
“The last fourteen days have been an amazing journey of self-discovery. Thanks to @sarahjenks & the rest of the #LiveMoreChallenge community, I have been encouraged and inspired. Motivated to push past my comfort zone (hello red lipstick! finding a quiet cafe in my new(ish) city, sharing myself so openly publicly). What I realized is that life is too short to keep #waitingontheweight & start living the life I have imagined NOW. I have embraced my imperfections and indulged in the simple pleasures that make life so lovely. I have thought long & hard about the 6 areas of life- food, fun, love, body, career & spirit and how living fully in each area applies to weight loss. As silly as it sounds, I have learned more about myself & how to move towards the life I want the last few days than years of therapy. This challenge has been the jumpstart I need to continue to pursue my happy. I cannot thank you enough @sarahjenks for this challenge & giving us all the opportunity to share in your wisdom & get a glimpse into your program. This has meant more to me than you could ever know, and thank you so much to all the other lovely ladies who have shared in this journey. I admire those who are continuing and wish all y’all nothing but success, love & happiness.” ~Sarah
“I have missed the last 2 challenges, but these past two weeks have been life changing for me. I have stopped doing the things I love because I’m embarrassed about what I might look like, what others may think of me and felt like my weight has been holding me back. I have been trying to lose weight for 10 years and have said to myself THOUSANDS of times “when I lose weight I will be happier, I will be more fun, I’ll live my life”. I’ve been so focused on my weight that my life is passing me by. I’m tired of waiting and these challenges have taught me that I don’t have to wait anymore. I can do all of the things I love and want to do, now. Some things may be harder, but that’s ok. I don’t have to hide in the shadows anymore, I can wear red lipstick and be noticed! My weight does not have to dictate how I live my life. I thought this was going to be a “regular” weight loss challenge, but it was so much more for me. It was a challenge to embrace life at whatever stage I am in right now. And right now, I am enough! Thank you Sarah Jenks, for starting me on my journey! I am going to continue with these challenges to push myself out of my comfort zone and enjoy my life. Today is my birthday and what a wonderful way to start the next chapter of my life! You have all been so inspiring and encouraging. I never thought an online group of complete strangers could have provided that for me, but you did! Thank you.” ~Charissa