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Oct 2013

Pregnant in Paris & learning to live better

Bonjour!

Happy Halloween! I’m heading off to a picnic in a graveyard to celebrate the day, I’m so excited.

Last week was Adventure Week in Live More Weigh Less Mastery, where all the women explored different ways to fully experience fun, adventure and romance. During Live More Weigh Less Mastery last spring, I went on a week-long road and got pregnant by surprise, so I knew I had to go big this year!

So Jonathan and I spent a wonderful week in Paris exploring neighborhoods, looking at art and eating croissants.

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Usually I feel a little blue coming back from such a magical week, but this time I made a conscious effort to bring the Parisian lifestyle back to San Francisco.  You see, people are obsessed with Paris for a reason.  There’s something calm, exciting, sensual, alluring, fancy and mysterious about Parisian life.  Everyone takes something different away from their experience, but these are the details I’ve chosen to actively create in my life at home, so I always feel that je ne sais quoi!

Have long dinners.  Jonathan and I spent at least 3 hours at dinner every night, sometimes longer.  We’d start with an aperitif, order 3 courses and talk all night.  We realized that we rarely take this time at home, whether we’re at our dining room table or our favorite restaurant and we’re now committed to lingering longer.  It helps with our digestion, our enjoyment and our relationship.

Make out in public.  Jonathan used to stop me in the middle of the street and kiss me, and I would get embarrassed. I pushed him away one too many times so he stopped.  Luckily, this amazing habit started up again in Paris where you feel like you have endless permission to have serious P.D.A., and I realized – what’s so wrong with showing how in love we are?  Nothing.

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Less phone.  An amazing thing we noticed is that you rarely see Parisians on their phones!  They aren’t checking their facebook updates, frantically texting or playing angry birds.  They are engaged in conversation, taking in their surroundings or engrossed in their thoughts.  Since being home I’m trying not to pull out my phone every time I have a free second or if the person I’m dining with went to the bathroom.  I’m just sitting, taking it in and enjoying the space.  What I’ve noticed is that I am much more calm, centered and happy.

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Eat croissants.  Oh how I love croissants!!  And for some reason these delicious, flaky packages of joy had completely fallen out of my diet.  I had a croissant everyday in Paris that I enjoyed slowly, orgasmically and without guilt.  Did you know that paying attention to your food and taking great pleasure in it raises your metabolism?  There’s no need to cut out something so amazing just because it has a ton of butter in it, so it’s back in my life and we couldn’t be happier.

Get dressed up.  Though I always pull myself together in San Francisco, I am usually pretty casual.  In Paris I wore a dress most days and here I’m wearing lace, leather AND my grandmother’s Hermes scarf.  It’s so worth pulling all of your favorite things together.  Since being back I’ve been trying to wear a fabulous, dressy outfit when I leave the house and I certainly have an extra spring in my step.

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Be a tourist.  When we were standing on top of the Eiffel Tower enjoying the fabulous view of the city, I realized that there are monuments, museums and incredible views right in San Francisco that I never take time to see!  People come from all over the world to SF for a reason and I’m going to start hitting up the hot spots.

Doing all of these things in just past few days since I’ve been back has completely changed the tone of my life.  Before I went away my life was feeling cramped, fast and overwhelming.  Now, with the effort I’m putting in, it feels slower, spacious and more nurturing, like I never left vacation.

In the comments below I want to know, what do you want to do to make your life feel more like you’re on vacation? Do you have any tips for the rest of us?

Can’t wait to hear from you.

Love,

Sarah

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  • Helen

    Dearest Sarah,
    You look absolutely radiant – such a sublime mummy to be!
    Am so thrilled that you and Jonathan had such a romantic, gorgeous trip together.
    Thank you for being such an inspiration – sharing your joy and tips for living a beautiful, bliss-filled life.
    Love
    Helen xxx

  • Avis

    When will the enrollment open again, i’ve been trying for several months to start the program but unable to.
    Thanks

  • ilse

    Ohh fabulous! I’m glad you had such an amazing trip! Can I ask where your leather coat is from? So cute!!

  • flyinjuju

    Love the pic by the red car. Looks like you had an amazing time! I have been dressing up more and doing make up everyday. I would love to make out more, less phone/computer, and more just being and enjoying. I have always been a contemplative type who observes and enjoys, but have become distracted. I would love to get back to that! Thanks so much for sharing. You honestly made my heart feel so warm and cozy reading this beautiful post!!
    Love and hugs,
    Julie

  • So cute Sarah — your pics look gorgeous and the trip looks amazing. To make life feel more like vacation (I’m leaving for vaca tomorrow.. yesss!), I have been trying to relax a lot more every day. Real lunch breaks, sleeping in on occasion, curling up with a blanket and a movie on a random afternoon, etc. It totally helps in the long run. xoxo.

  • Helen

    I, too, came back from Paris recently. We are both so lucky to have the experience.

    Ideas for living like you are on holiday while in your home town?

    Instead of buying the “good stuff” only when you have guests over, why not get used to having nice quality jams, real European butter, and fabulous cheeses at home a regular basis? A fabulous jar of jam, for example, can go a long way and might only cost a couple of dollars more than the regular grocery store brands.

    Pretend you have out of town visitors and play tour guide in your own town. Get on a cable car in SF, instead of saying that’s for tourists. Go to the Top of the Rock if you live in NYC…

    Walk for ages in different neighborhoods instead of getting in your car or taking public transportation. Explore!

    Take photographs of people, places and things you take for granted.

    Enjoy where you are. There are always wonderful things around you. You just need to be open-minded…have that vacation mindset…and enjoy!

  • Fabulous news!! Omg how exciting!! BIG congrats, hope it all goes well, I know how exciting it is :)) Great post, even better you took done lessons away to implement back home. Paris is gorgeous, I’m lucky it’s just an hours flight away 😉 Time with your man.. Beautiful xxx

  • Sarah, you look SO beautiful! I love all the tips and things you’re bring back from Paris! xo

  • Belle. Vous avez tous deux tellement l’air vivant, sain et heureux. Merci pour le partage des postes, beaucoup de réflexion !

  • O.M.G. This list! With the exception of the PDA, which would look very weird, seeing as how I’m single, lol – I am SO going to incorporate these into my day. I was smiling just reading your post, can’t wait to see how good it feels to do each one. I’m also thinking of the many places I’ve traveled and the other “I’m on vacation” types of activities I enjoy that I can do on the daily…for real, this post opened my eyes, my soul. Thank you so much for bringing the Live More philosophy to life.

  • I LOVE this post. I’m so obsessed with Paris and have been consciously trying to call more the city of lights into the city of fog since visiting it this summer. Your list of actionable ways to bring Paris home is so perfect. I was struck during my time in Paris how every single decision was motivated by pleasure – what would be the best, most perfect thing I could do/order/see/experience be? Now that I’m home, I try to do the same thing. Ditch the rules and go with what will bring me the most enjoyment. The other little thing I do to pretend I’m a French lady is to walk through my day like I have a secret no one knows about. I carry myself differently, wear a secretive smile, and flirt with the world because they have no idea. It makes my day magical.

  • SarahD

    We traveled last year and noticed these same things. We all need reminded of this good advice.

  • I especially love the idea of learning to be a tourist in your own city, especially when that city is as awesome as SF (I live in Berkeley, so just a short train ride away). I love to play tourist in the city, although I was better about it when my boyfriend lived in the Richmond and we had easier weekend access. I’m going to pledge to return to some of my favorite SF spots in the next few months, since we’re likely going to be moving away sometime within the next year…

    –climbing to the top of Coit tower – especially when there’s no fog — the view is amazing! Combined with brunch at the Ferry Building farmer’s market on a Saturday morning…yes, please!
    –adults-only night at the Academy of Science (Thursday nights) – you should totally go to this before the kiddo comes, it’s a blast!
    –morning bun from La Farine + breakfast in Delores Park – soooo yummy.

    And – I have been meaning to go to the Japanese Tea Garden in Golden Gate park before I move, and STILL haven’t managed to do it (8 yrs later)! Definitely need to make that a priority, as I hear it’s really cool!

  • Oh I am swooning over that photo of you with that darling car! This is one lucky bebe to have parents that so enjoy the moment and make the most out of life. 🙂 Love you lady!

    with grace & gumption,
    Hilary

  • You look beautiful! Congratulations!
    great feeling to having you visiting so close to here! (Geneva- Switzerland!
    have a blessed time back home, Isabel

  • Kissing my husband in public (or even holding hands!) definitely makes any old day feel like a special occasion for me. A few others I love to sneak in are going on day-dates, taking baths & sending pretty postcards to friends! 🙂

  • Stephanie

    I like to drive out of town to the mountains.. There’s always a new spot that I haven’t yet discovered! I <3 your newsletter!! Xo

  • Sarah-Thank you for highlighting these simple and wonderful ways to live… I think the part about taking time to enjoy meals is especially important. We are so accustomed to scarfing food down in front of the television that we forget the amazing conversations we can be having while we slowly savor our food. I recently had a lunch date with one of my best friends and we stayed for 3 hours and enjoyed great food and deep conversation…Like you said, it’s also great for digestion. I had a grilled cheese that day that probably should have killed my stomach but I felt fine because I took the time to slowly enjoy it while I took in my surroundings. Thanks for the wonderful tips as always! 🙂
    -Jessica

  • Pregnancy suits you, you look radiant. Each time I read what you have to share, I feel inspired, motivated and encouraged. I so appreciate your passion and love of life.
    I am looking forward to the weekend and taking it ‘slowly’. I also need a break from the computer and my phone. I am looking forward to reconnecting with myself and my husband and catching up on some sleep.

  • Paula

    Oh my goodness Sarah!! Looks like you had a lovely time!! Thank you so much for sharing your trip with us. You were just enjoying and breathing in those special moments. Thank you for reminding me that even though things are tough right now, I can enjoy the hot spots in my home town and rekindle my love for my husband.
    xoxoxoxoox

  • Wanda

    Hey Sarah
    Enjoyed your posts and your pictures of Paris. You look fabulous too btw:o) I’m glad you had a good time. I tell you what you really do know how to have fun and I bet you’re a blast to hang out with. My life is far from a vacation – and truly don’t know how to turn it into one but I’m open for suggestions:o)
    Thanks for sharing. Good luck with the new baby – you’re going to be an awesome mother!!

  • Sarah – You look absolutely and totally beautiful!!!
    Lisa S. Jenks 🙂

  • Lynn

    Sarah…you look SO beautiful! Thanks for sharing your fantastic experience with us. Food for thought!

  • Your holiday looks amazing Sarah. I’m going to Paris next year with my husband and can’t wait!!

  • You shine, gorgeous! Bless you and thank you for sharing! Alla my love to you. <3

  • Looks like a fabulous trip! I haven’t been to Paris since 2006, so I definitely need to get my butt back over there. Great tips, too. Parisians definitely seemed WAY less stressed out than the average American despite living in a bustling city.

  • Sarah! I love your pictures and your suggestions!! Here are some ways I try to make my life feel more like I’m on vacation:

    Spontaneous daytime baths w lavender Epsom salts
    Lunchtime restorative yoga classes
    Breaking up my day w 30 minutes of fiction reading
    Taking myself out to lunch just because
    Doing new New York things – just went on a fall foliage water taxi tour! 🙂

    xoxo Jordana

  • What a great idea to bring vacation into everyday life. Thanks for the idea. I am going to Bali in January and will bring something home that I can do everyday. Cheers!

  • I love this post! Paris is definitely a magical place!

    We took a family vacation this summer to Italy and brought back some magic into our daily lives. We now drink Pellegrino all of the time, I buy fresh bread and “kid food” has pretty much left our house!! I also pick up fresh flowers about once a week. Flowers just make my heart smile:)

  • Suzanne

    Beautiful pics, Sarah. I think that treating your own city like a tourist destination is my favorite thing (other than croissants, because COME ON!) that you mentioned in your post. I have about 10 things I’ve been “meaning” to do in my city, Detroit, since I moved here 7 years ago. I’ve been enjoying exploring and learning how much I actually LOVE where I live. It takes time, but the benefit is long lasting and completely worth it.

  • Audrey

    Great post Sarah! Love the tips and excited for croissants!

  • Kristen

    Sara,
    Love this post. I thought to myself. How can I live like a tourist today?

  • I was waiting for this post! I’m headed to Paris for the first time next week and am super excited! Can’t wait to enjoy the croissants and all the other delightful foods (and wine). The difference between now and what I would have done in the past is that I will enjoy them mindfully!

    Thank you Sarah!

    PS- Any recs you have are welcome 🙂

  • Juniper

    Most AMAZING portrait of you by the red Fiat! What a wonderful momento of your journey(s)!

  • Enjoy the 3-hour dinners and conversation before the baby gets here!

  • LOVE this! Every point was like “Yes!…yes!” and I could relate to my own life. Thank you for the reminders…so simple, but empowering.

  • Ayisatu

    You look glorious Hun. Its wonderful you are still learning to live more and actually just doing it rather than stalling like too many people do. Well done.

  • You are so gorgeous and rocking that baby bump for sure. <3 Paris.

  • Jessica Zelenko

    This is so beautiful and inspiring. Thank you! You look fantastic!

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