I have decided that you have to be insane to have a child. Or at the very least have the stamina and stealth of a CEO of a billion dollar company.
Insane-CEO. I’ll take it, I guess.
When Marshall was four weeks old I told Jonathan, “I cannot believe that, like, MOST women have babies. That’s nuts.” I have so much more respect for our gender. I had no clue.
The hardest part for me about being a Mom is that, when on autopilot, you have no life.
Me-time, working out, dates, showers, a social life get overtaken by diapers, breast feeding around the clock, bouncing, singing, cuddling, rocking… it’s all consuming and it’s easy to stay in survival mode hoping that someday, something will change and it will get better.
I remember, when Marshall was about six weeks, feeling so far away from myself and wondering how on earth I was going to find my way back. Then I remembered — Oh yeah, I do this for a living.
Although I may seem like a weight loss coach, what I really am is a Life Curator. I help women create WAY better lives so that food is no longer their only source of happiness. I took myself on as a client.
I made a list of all the things I needed in my life to feel human again: dance, working out, dates, time to read, lunch with the girls and regular massages. I mapped out on a calendar my ideal week and then set to work to find a nanny who could watch Marshall while I do those things (before you throw your hands up and say, “Well I can’t afford a nanny” I’m going to address that so keep reading). After some serious manifestation work, the perfect nanny landed in our laps (NICU nurse, midwife in training, calm, warm, loving) and I was off to curate my life.
Here’s what I’ve connected with so deeply in this process of finding myself again:
Life Takes Strategy.
And when we think that life should just happen, or be easy, we find ourselves burnt out, bored, overwhelmed and flat.
I could easily see the effort to find a babysitter, so I can go to the movies with my girlfriends or get my nails done as a nuisance, but instead I see it as an act of dedication to myself, my marriage, my friendships and my son. Because I know that when I’m happy and filled up, I am a much better mother.
And it’s important to know that this isn’t specific to mothers. Creating the life you want with a career, family obligations, a relationship and a social life is hella hard, and takes some serious strategy.
So you may be thinking…
I don’t even know what I want.
I don’t have the money to hire a nanny, travel or do the things I really want to do.
I don’t know where to find the kind of support I need for my business or my family, so I have more freedom.
This is why we created the LIVE FREE Retreat in Sonoma California this fall.
In Sonoma this October we’re going to be:
1. Helping you identify exactly what you need in your life to feel happy, beautiful and in love (with yourself and your partner). We’ll talk about activities, trips, experiences, downtime, self-care… where to get it, when to get it and how to fit it in to your specific life. You’ll leave the long weekend with a new calendar and the resources you need to walk into your new life right away.
2. How to MAKE MORE MONEY so you can afford the support you need and pay for the experiences you want. We are going to strategize with you on how much extra you need and exactly how you are going to add it to your bottom line.
3. How to manifest (spiritually and practically) the people you need in your life. Women last year left the weekend with nannies already hired, housekeepers booked, business assistants in place. I can’t tell you how many times I heard, “I needed to find a (designer, realtor, therapist, dance class) and I found it and booked it during the retreat.”
And a lot more…so you can have the life you deserve.
Nisha and I have experienced first hand exactly what it takes to plan, pay for and execute your ideal life and we feel incredibly passionate about helping women create the freedom they desire.
The deadline to enroll in LIVE FREE is July 1st. You can read all about the long weekend and see if it’s the right fit for you here: LIVE FREE Sonoma.
If you have any questions just reply to this email and someone on our team will get right back to you.
Your life strategists,
Sarah (and Nisha)
Simple actions to take your life back, know your worth & feel alive no matter how drained, overwhelmed and far gone you feel.