You aren’t who you think you are
It’s the beginning of a new week and another opportunity to live for yourself instead of the expectations, needs and comfort of other people. Today I want to spend some time chatting about your relationship with your body. This can be uncomfortable, I know, but I promise after reading this letter you’re going to feel less shame and more acceptance and clarity on how to create a beautiful relationship with your body.
I’ve been in it with my body for most of life with some periods (some long, some short) where I’ve felt in right relationship with her.
Recently, I’ve found myself back in the belief that my body is broken, that I deserve a better body and just wishing that this wasn’t my struggle. I just want a different body somedays. It’s so intense to say out loud, but it’s true.
But can you imagine that if your daughter was getting on your nerves…if she was tired, sick, maybe talking back to you all the time, and you said to her, “I just want a new daughter”?
It makes me cry just thinking about saying that to Annabelle or Hazel. I know that they could be awful, and I would still want them. I am IN IT with them for life, no matter how badly they mess up, I love them unconditionally.
This is how I want us to feel about our bodies. Your body is one of your (or only) daughters.
I get a lot of questions from women like this:
I want to be healthy, but every time I go on cleanse, I get triggered to wanting to be thin and going into restriction.
I know I shouldn’t want to be thin, but I also really hate my body, what do I do?
I feel so overweight, I never want to have sex, but I also don’t want to go on a crazy diet, help!
I have had all of these questions myself, the last one super recently, but there are some things I’ve done that have helped me shift from taking care of myself to change how I LOOK to taking care of myself for my HEALTH.
Here are some some mindset shifts that I am working on that I want you to steal.
Here’s an exercise for you: if you loved your body, and you cared about how she functions, and how feminine and free and sensual she feels, knowing you may never look different, how would you take care of yourself?
Take some time today, to do the exercise above and ask yourself how you’re currently relating to your body and if any of these mindset shifts feel safe for you to sit with for the next week.
I’d love to hear which mindset shift felt like the biggest AHA, let me know in the comments.
Talk to you next week!
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