At one point I had 10 people working on my business, 3 babysitters to help me with Marshall and 6 self care professionals to keep my body and soul afloat. Not to mention a therapist to keep my marriage healthy and a revolving door of grandparents to help out.
I know it takes a village, but come on, this was a little intense.
The reality was that I was feeling guilty from not spending enough time with Marshall, exhausted by being pregnant without time for my body to recover, and really stressed out by making enough money to pay for NINETEEN people to keep my life turning. I was caught in a cycle of exhaustion and throwing money at the problem which then just created a bigger problem. I was nowhere near my sweet spot.
The way I define a sweet spot is the combination of:
I thought about cutting out everyone who worked on my business to reduce costs, but if I worked completely alone I would have to work all the time to make enough money to pay for my life and my nanny which I would need because I was working all the time. And there would be no time for me.
I thought about reducing my nannies hours but that also left me with no time for myself.
I thought about moving into a cheaper home but the thought of leaving my beloved home left me VERY unhappy.
I belly ached over my sweet spot for months. I really wanted to find a way to make everything work, to grow my business aggressively, take impeccable care of myself and be a present mother.
I asked all my friends for their opinion, cried to Jonathan for months, opened up to my parents and in laws, and (of course) worked with two different psychics.
Through all of the conversations and soul searching it became clear, it is not time to build an empire, and letting that go was really hard. Someday I will give Weight Watchers a run for their money, but today is not that day. Today is about being a great coach, writing to you every week and channeling my creativity into personal play and adventure. Could I build an empire now? Sure I could, but it would kill me in the process.
Making this shift allowed me to reduce my SarahJenks.com team to three people, which took a ton of financial pressure off of me. Without the pressure to grow this huge company, my whole system relaxed. I had more energy for my kids and could actually enjoy my time with them (so I didn’t need as much child care), I didn’t need acupuncture, a massage and a chiropractic adjustment every week just to keep me alive, and I started to find way more time for me to play and move my body.
I don’t feel like I’ve completely landed on my sweet spot, I still have this underlying sense of carrying a lot, but I feel closer. I know that the more I am committed to shifting the different elements of my life, being conscious of how one area can effect the whole system and knowing that I am in the drivers seat of my life, the closer I will feel to my sweet spot.
My invitation for you this week is to think about your sweet spot. Maybe you have too much on your plate and you need to simplify? Maybe you are trying to do too much yourself, like running a business with no child care or holding down a full-time job, taking care of your aging mother and being your own housekeeper. Maybe you are in a holding pattern and aren’t doing enough, and it could be great medicine to spend less time watching TV and more time working on a project.
It’s a complicated algorithm, this sweet spot. It takes a calculator to explore your budget, a calendar to be real about your time and a fierce dedication to your happiness.
In the comments, I would love to hear where you’re at right now and some ideas you have on what you can adjust to find your unique sweet spot. And make sure to help a sister out! Take a look at what other’s are struggling with and lend a suggestion. Sometimes we need someone else to show us a simple solution that we are blind to.
I can’t wait to hear from you,
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