I think finding a “balance” between being a mom and working is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. But it wasn’t because I wanted to be home all the time and it couldn’t, it was because I thought I was going to want to be home all the time but I didn’t. I saw all of the cultural norms, societal pressures and unconscious belief system play out in the most stereotypical way. And I thought I was going to be strong and confident enough to be immune to all of this, HA!.
And even as I write this to you, I am present to my inner critic telling me, “you aren’t a real mom because you don’t want to be with your kids all the time.” I get that it’s ridiculous, but the truth is that these belief systems are deeply rooted in me and I am working hard to choose what feels good in my soul, and then own that I am a wonderful mom, a great business woman and a woman who takes care of herself (since I’m telling you to do it all the time).
My journey to getting clear on this in myself is to seek out the guidance of mothers who I see doing things their way, and feeling good about it. I may not want to set up my schedule exactly like theirs, but there is wisdom on how they came to peace around their lifestyle.
One of these women I call often is Briana Borten. She is a mother to an 8 year old and 2 year old girls, the CEO of Dragon Tree (a company made up of 3 spas, a product line, Dream Book + Planner, and many information products) and the co-author of the upcoming book, The Well Life which she wrote with her amazing husband, Dr. Peter Borten. She also travels, has a great marriage, takes great care of her body, is so gorgeous and the most amazing friend. And she’s relaxed most of the time. It’s weird. And if I wasn’t so evolved, I would hate her. But she’s one of my best friends and I get to lean on her for support.
Briana and I recently sat down to talk about work, motherhood, what self-care really means (it’s not just about taking baths and a getting a massage), our parents, ambition… and how they’re all related.
You can listen to our intimate conversation here:
It was so fun being able to talk instead of type to you guys this week 🙂 Let me know in the comments below your biggest takeaway from our conversation and where you are in this journey.
P.S. I just finished reading the Well Life and it had a huge impact on me. Make sure to listen to our conversation above to hear about the changes I’ve made.