Nov 2016

A vulnerable conversation about motherhood, working, self-care and finding the time

I think finding a “balance” between being a mom and working is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. But it wasn’t because I wanted to be home all the time and it couldn’t, it was because I thought I was going to want to be home all the time but I didn’t. I saw all of the cultural norms, societal pressures and unconscious belief system play out in the most stereotypical way. And I thought I was going to be strong and confident enough to be immune to all of this, HA!.

And even as I write this to you, I am present to my inner critic telling me, “you aren’t a real mom because you don’t want to be with your kids all the time.” I get that it’s ridiculous, but the truth is that these belief systems are deeply rooted in me and I am working hard to choose what feels good in my soul, and then own that I am a wonderful mom, a great business woman and a woman who takes care of herself (since I’m telling you to do it all the time).

My journey to getting clear on this in myself is to seek out the guidance of mothers who I see doing things their way, and feeling good about it. I may not want to set up my schedule exactly like theirs, but there is wisdom on how they came to peace around their lifestyle.

One of these women I call often is Briana Borten. She is a mother to an 8 year old and 2 year old girls, the CEO of Dragon Tree (a company made up of 3 spas, a product line, Dream Book + Planner, and many information products) and the co-author of the upcoming book, The Well Life which she wrote with her amazing husband, Dr. Peter Borten. She also travels, has a great marriage, takes great care of her body, is so gorgeous and the most amazing friend. And she’s relaxed most of the time. It’s weird. And if I wasn’t so evolved, I would hate her. But she’s one of my best friends and I get to lean on her for support.

Briana and I recently sat down to talk about work, motherhood, what self-care really means (it’s not just about taking baths and a getting a massage), our parents, ambition… and how they’re all related.

You can listen to our intimate conversation here:

Click here to take advantage of Briana’s generous gift when you pre-order the Well Life by November 15th.

It was so fun being able to talk instead of type to you guys this week 🙂 Let me know in the comments below your biggest takeaway from our conversation and where you are in this journey.

Big hugs,

P.S. I just finished reading the Well Life and it had a huge impact on me. Make sure to listen to our conversation above to hear about the changes I’ve made.

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  • Lesley

    Hey Sarah! I just had to comment I felt this was really relevant to me right at this moment. I also have two kids age 2 and 6 and find myself constantly feeling like I am failing in all areas of life even though I think I’m not projecting that outwardly. 🙂 When I’m really busy at work I find myself thinking about working items and my to-do list while I’m supposed to be hanging out with my kids in the evenings, and when I’m at work during the day I’m feeling guilty or anxious about things with my kids. It is really hard to find a balance and I find it difficult to turn other parts of my brain off which I think is causing me a lot of internal stress! Anyway I appreciate this conversation and look forward to reading the book. I have found for myself personally I have to work by myself without any distractions around (I have to have my kids somewhere else, I just can’t deal if they are home). I don’t feel bothered by this but I have felt some judgement from other people on this in my life.

    • Hi Lesley- I am SO glad this resonates with you and that you took the time to see how it is reflected in your life. It’s so important to see ourselves for who we are and what works for us and find that balance for our unique journey. Sending you hugs!

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