Struggle with balancing motherhood, work, and self-care? My radical approach may trigger you.
Autumn is the number one reason we moved to Massachusetts. When temperatures dropped in July in San Francisco to the high 60s and the sunny afternoon was cut off by a blanket of cold fog every day, I felt so depressed. But when the temperature climbed back up to 85 in September and left my beloved flannel shirts hanging in the closet, I felt like dying. The kids would get sun burnt apple picking, there wasn’t a red leaf in sight and hot cider was the last thing I ever wanted to drink.
It’s also my birthday next week, so I have an even deeper connection to this incredible season.
You see, Mother Earth has an intelligence, and every physical shift and change is a message on how to be in the flow, to embrace our natural power and be more ALIVE.
Fall starts with the harvest, a time when farmers pull food from the ground, harvest the wheat and the corn and get busy prepping and storing it for the winter. The animals are following suit gathering acorns and building winter proof homes. It’s a time of great activity, business, and organization. No wonder we’ve naturally chosen this time to go back to school.
We’ve been in the sign of Virgo for almost a month now which carries that same energy of busyness and organization. My Annabelle is a Virgo and I see her organizing her toys, crayons, spoons, and clothing all the time, totally naturally in her free time. She carries a part of this fall energy with her everywhere.
Today is the Fall Equinox, the day that measures equal hours of light and dark; night and day are the same length – so today we think about balance. It is also when we move into the sign of Libra, whose symbol is the scales – again, balance. Traditionally in the Northern Hemisphere, it is a time to have a great Harvest Festival, to really celebrate all of the hard work of the year and rest after a month of the hard work of harvesting.
I define Magic as aligning with the natural power of what’s happening around us. The Goddess/God/Divine (doesn’t matter what you call it) has created a world that moves in a certain pattern (Spring, Summer, Fall, Winter) which also corresponds with the moon phases (Waxing, Full Moon, Waning, New Moon), which also corresponds with our menstrual cycle (Follicular, Ovulation, Luteal, Bleeding). This rhythm of Grow, Harvest, Release, Rest is all around us. We can’t stop it, we can only ignore it.
In my own life and in Whole Woman, we align our personal growth with the seasons and the Moon. We use the natural rhythm to get information about what would serve our growth in our relationships, career, motherhood, health etc.
So today, I invite to think about 3 things:
A note on balance and releasing: almost every woman I’ve met admits to be overcommitted to the needs of others. Our hearts and calendars are full of doing things for other people. Especially the summer encourages us to have full social calendars, lots of travel and if you’re a Mom, lots of time making sure our kids have a good summer.
So the way to come into balance is to RELEASE. To make space, to take things all of your plate, to say no. It’s important to shift from giving to others to giving to you. This is how we come into balance.
Today we’re starting “Back To Me”, a free 7-day program where you’ll be guided to doing 1 practice a day to get your life force back no matter how exhausted you feel. We’re doing it as a community and it’s not too late to sign up or invite your friends to join us.
We have families, old college roommates and friend groups doing it together. How amazing to have your whole group of friends doing this together?
Our first practice is the perfect thing to do this evening on the Equinox so I hope you’ll join us.
And here are two more rituals you can do this week to celebrate the Equinox!
Divine Dinner Party
Consider gathering a few friends for dinner at your home. Create a centerpiece with seasonal fruits and vegetables (lots of orange and red) and some orange and red candles (or any candle you have laying around, don’t over complicate it). Ask your friends to bring a dish (we are celebrating balance after all).
Set sacred space around your table. This can look like holding hands and saying grace, smoke cleansing each guest, a moment of silence or singing a song. I know this can feel weird but trust me, creating this container is so powerful, you’ll be able to feel it.
When it feels natural, simply go around the table share, speaking openly about one of all of these topics:
That’s it! Rituals can be complicated, but they can also be as simple as gathering with people you love, setting a sacred container, eating and sharing. If you do this, please post a picture to Instagram and tag @sarahjenks! I’d love to see you making some magic.
Materials you’ll want to gather: A Candle, matches, paper, a pot or something you can burn something in, something to cleanse your space like burning cedar or rosemary or salt water.
As you can see, rituals don’t need to be complicated or require lots of special gear. The whole point is to connect with your soul and with a higher power (which are made up of the same stuff). Often space, intention and some fire are enough.
Please please PLEASE let me know when you do this ritual. You can tag me on Instagram at @sarahjenks or leave a comment on the blog.
Wishing you a magical week.
P.S. Don’t forget To sign up for a Back to Me! Having guidance and accountability is critical when taking time for ourselves doesn’t come naturally. If you keep saying that you’re going to make time for yourself but always find yourself getting caught up in the needs of others instead, I highly encourage you to join us. Click here to join this free 7-day program.
Simple actions to take your life back, know your worth & feel alive no matter how drained, overwhelmed and far gone you feel.