The missing link to having it all

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I’m Nisha (or Auntie Nisha, as Marshall calls me 🙂 )

Have you ever been so jealous that your jealousy completely overtook your brain for a minute…or a week?  That’s how I met Sarah.

A handful of years ago, I was busy building my coaching business, where I supported women in finding freedom from emotional eating.  My business was growing steadily when someone told me I should check out “another NYC woman doing a similar thing”: Sarah Jenks.

I immediately went to Sarah’s website.  As I clicked through the pages, looking at her pictures and reading her words, I was overcome with jealous anxiety.  “Why would anyone want to work with me if they knew about Sarah?”; “She’s so freakin’ pretty!”; “Oh man, she’s totally got it together.  I bet she has way more clients than I do.”

Little did I know that somewhere in Manhattan’s Lower East Side, Sarah was obsessing over my website and thinking roughly the same things about me, too.

We were totally jealous of each other and didn’t know it.  Sitting on my sofa that day, I clearly remember thinking, “Well, if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em!”  I emailed her.

A few weeks later, we were planning our first teleclass together; a week after that, we went to a party together (check us out, lookin’ all cute in the pic below!); by the time we’d led the class together, we were for-real-friends.


In our class, we both shared our experiences with emotional eating — two completely different stories, both valid, and both valuable for the women in our class.  We came to understand that our jealousy of each other had nothing to do with the other person and everything to do with our own insecurities — that somehow we weren’t smart, pretty, eloquent, funny or confident enough.

Sarah and I have learned a huge lesson through our friendship: Instead of comparing yourself to women you admire, make friends and help each other grow. {tweet it}

At the LIVE FREE Online Event – a two week live stream video gathering where you can join us right from your living room – we’ll begin cultivating a new sisterhood focused on creating success in every area of your life. (When you sign up you’ll also be the first to hear about our 2nd Annual LIVE FREE Retreat in Sonoma’s Wine Country this October.)

Over the years, Sarah and I have supported each other through a lot…

  • Sarah’s move to San Francisc0
  • My divorce
  • Program launches
  • Fights with our partners
  • Exciting business milestones
  • Family dramas
  • Big investment decisions
  • Dreams for the future
  • Baby Marshall’s birth!


Having each other as friends through these life experiences has made life smoother, more fulfilling and more fun.  Who knew that the missing link to having it all wasn’t about having the perfect thighs, the perfect schedule, the perfect relationship, the perect teeth or having it all figured out?!

The missing link to having it all is sisterhood.

When you have close girlfriends who get you, everything on earth can be figured out, and everything in life feels better.  For all of humankind, women have lived with other women.  At any other time in history, if you were confused, sad, angry, excited, anxious or happy, a woman would be there to hug you, celebrate with you, cry with you, and hold your hand.  We’re designed for sisterhood.  It’s our nourishment.

I hope you’ll join me and Sarah for the LIVE FREE Online Event.  We’ll be bringing together a brilliant group of ambitious women, looking to cultivate more ease in their lives.  Here’s what we’ll be covering:

WEEK ONE – Ambition & Ease: We’ll be teaching you some of our signature strategies for finding your sweet spot between ambition and ease – the place where you feel productive, creative and happy in your life and work.  We’re also going to share our most personal thoughts on how to create true success when it comes to your career, body, lifestyle and relationship. Up until now, we’ve only shared this information with our clients.

WEEK TWO – Live Coaching with Sarah & Nisha:  You’ll have the opportunity to be personally coached by us.  We’ll be digging into your biggest work/life conundrums and coaching you to find clear solutions for having the success you want.

We would love it if you could join us.  You can read about all the details and RSVP here.


I can’t wait to meet you at the event.



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