What’d you got planned for the weekend? Anything fabulous?
When I was in the thick of my body hell, I would always try so hard to “be good” with food all week that by the time the weekend rolled around, I was gunnin’ to let loose and go wild with food.
I’d wake up on Monday morning feeling hung-over, bloated, fat, guilty and embarrassed by my behavior. Not a great way to start the week.
When I started adopting the strategies I teach in the Breathtaking Bride Booty Camp, I realized that on the weekends, what I was craving wasn’t food, but permission to cut-loose, have fun and let my sexy out.
When I started crafting my custom weekends, it lead me to lose 40 pounds.
So today, I want to help you craft YOUR custom weekend, so you can wake up on Monday feeling rejuvenated, alive, in love and beautiful. You might even feel slimmer after just 2 days. Here it goes, grab a pen…
When we have weekends that are filled with one party, gathering or meal after another, it can be totally draining. And if we spend the whole weekend inside reading, meditating, and sipping tea by ourselves, we can get really bored. Both can lead to over eating.
SO it’s really important to make time for these activities:
Here’s a sample schedule for inspiration:
Friday Night, Connect: Go on a fabulous date with your lover. Don’t ask “what do you want to do?” Just make the decision yourself and tell him what’s up. OR tell him “Sweetie, I’d love for you to take me out to dinner tonight, will you find a place and make a reservation? Something French would be amazing. Just tell me where and when to meet you.” If this would totally freak him out, give him 3 options, and tell him to decide. If you’re single, call up a lady-friend, a your favorite man-friend or ask out that guy you’ve had a crush on. Why the hell not?
Saturday Morning, Restore: Get up by 9am, go for a quick walk by yourself, make a simple breakfast and catch up on your favorite blogs. Maybe even go to yoga… no pressure though. And ask you man for a foot massage (my new favorite past-time).
Saturday Afternoon, Educate: Bring a book to a café and read for 3 hours (I’ll be reading Make Everyman Want you by Marie Forleo this weekend). Or go to a museum, a lecture, a guided tour, a documentary, write a letter to your unborn child, anything that makes your brain work and has nothing to do with your career. I think it’s powerful to spend Saturday afternoons alone, even if your man is dying to spend time with you. Tell him to go watch college football, he’ll think you’re the coolest woman ever.
Saturday Night, Cut Loose: Carve out at least 2 hours to get ready (see below). Then get a group of people together, couples or girlfriends. Plan something where you can wear a hot dress and sip a martini. Then go dancing. Either at a club or back home with your honey.
Sunday Morning, Restore: Sleep in, as late as you want. No guilt allowed. When you wake up take a long shower or a bubble bath.
Sunday Afternoon, Cut Loose: Sunday afternoons have the potential to be super depressing with work approaching in less than 24 hours. Make sure Sundays are filled with pleasure-filled adventure. Enjoy a European lunch (lunch with wine) explore a new neighborhood, take an impromptu trip to wine country, see a movie, get your nails done or go sledding.
Sunday Evening, Connect: Spin by the grocery store, pick up basics for the week and ingredients for an easy dinner. Try grilled salmon, kale salad and brown rice cooked with white wine, garlic and butter. Super easy and super delish. Set your table, enjoy your meal sans TV and whisper sweet nothings to your man.
If you’re not happy with your body or your life, try doing things differently, even if it seems completely unrelated to weight loss.
* Wear heels to brunch and flats to dinner
* Throw on red lipstick to go to the grocery store
* Have sex in the middle of the day
* Work out on the weekend
* Change up your hair-do
* Paint your nails a bold color
* Make a new friend
* Drink tea instead of coffee or order pasta instead of a salad
Living against the grain is a great adventure. When you have adventure in your life, diving into a pint of ice creams seems far less exciting.
Just try for one weekend wearing one fabulous outfit after another, including what you wear to bed and around the house. I know you hate drawing attention to your body, but accentuating your curves instead of hiding your fabulous ass for 48 hours isn’t going to kill you. If you don’t have anything to wear, go shopping.
Both nights baby, order that chocolate lava cake or crème brulee. I give you full permission, so no guilt allowed. Really savor every bite, eat it slowly and make orgasm noises while you’re eating (trust me, it makes it so much better).
Flirting is an invaluable art that I need to write a full article on, but it’s important for you to know that you can flirt without leading men on. It’s about owning your beauty and sensuality and knowing that the barista, guy at the next table or the runner you’re about to pass is damn lucky to be within 3 feet of you. Smile, hold eye contact and see how it makes you feel. It’ll make your whole weekend feel exciting.
It’s time to get real with your lover, your girlfriends, your parents, your grandparents. Tell at least one person why you love them, how they’ve shaped you, your favorite memory about them. Spread the warm & fuzzy. It’s amazing how you stop caring about your love-handles when you have a better handle on love.
PS. I just have 3 spots left in the Breathtaking Bride Booty Camp. If you like the idea of having “fun” fuel your weight loss, instead of trying the same torturous, restrictive, boring diets over and over with no success, then visitwww.breathtaingbridebootycamp.com to see if one of those spots belongs to you.
Simple actions to take your life back, know your worth & feel alive no matter how drained, overwhelmed and far gone you feel.