I’ve been blown away by the number of thank you notes I’ve received after last week’s blog post on “How the hell are we supposed to make friends!?”. I’m so happy this topic resonated with so many people. If you haven’t read it yet, you can check it out here.
In that article I explained that when something is missing from our lives, we are very likely to fill it with food. For example, when we are lacking girlfriends, we’re much more likely to sit at home on Saturday night eating Cherry Garcia and catching up on Mad Men, instead of going Bhangra dancing with your crew (yes, this is what I’m doing this Saturday, pumped.)
The other thing that’s a gaping hole in many of my clients’ lives is romantic love.
Next week, I will be joining experts such as Arielle Ford, the author of The Soulmate Secret, Love Astrologer Carol Allen, and 12 other experts in a FREE online video event called Done with Being Single (baller, right?) hosted by my dear friend Kavita J Patel. Make sure to sign up here now to receive all the videos, get my best man-landing strategies and hear my (very personal) love story.
Because I want you to get the most out of this event, I want to tell you the biggest mistake most women make when it comes to dating and how you can avoid this incredibly common pitfall.
Now you’re probably thinking, “What does Sarah know about dating?” True, I met Jonathan in college and our relationship blossomed over solo cups of Natty Light (if you were busy sipping green juice through college, Natty Light is a super cheap beer), and I have never been on a blind date or gone on match.com but landing Jonathan certainly didn’t happen by accident and the best strategies for finding love are also the foundation of having a passionate, long-term relationship.
When Jonathan strolled into my life, I was not ready. I had 15 pounds to lose, a GPA to get up and tons of parties to plan. But with just a few months left before Jonathan graduated, I knew that if I waited to talk to him, he could be out of my life forever.
Despite my insane insecurities and a lifetime of playing it safe, I stopped waiting on the weight.
Fueled by my sense of urgency and a whole lotta skunked beer (I’m not condoning liquid confidence, but I was in college, so that’s just what went down) I started what is now the most amazing relationship I could ever imagine.
There’s a reason my flagship program is NOT called Weigh Less, Live More. If you focus all of your energy on losing weight, you’ll be seriously bored and bummed out, which is gonna send you straight into that leftover Halloween candy for a little love and excitement.
I always ask my Live More Weigh Less ladies, “how will your life be different when you lose weight?” All of the single ladies always say, “I’ll be in a relationship”. All of my non-single ladies say, “I’ll be more in love and having more sex”. They’ve been waiting for love to happen once they’ve lost weight.
What I want you to understand is that the thing you think you’ll get when you lose weight, is the very thing that is going to set you free from body-jail.
If you think that when you lose weight, that’s when you’ll start dating, then you need to start dating in order to lose weight. Tweet it!
Got that? Instead of counting calories or spending hours on a treadmill, I want you to put on your big-girl panties and get your ass on match.com, ask your friends to set you up and start flirting with that guy in yoga class. Dating is what is going to get you to lose that last ten pounds, not the other way around.
Scared shitless? Then you really need to sign up for the free Done with Being Single event. Myself, along with the other incredible love experts are going to tell you everything you need to know about finding and keeping love, including how to get out of your own way. You can sign up here.
I can’t wait to see you next week.
PS. I’m planning on talking about an incredibly important topic, monogamy, with Kavita during our interview. If you’ve ever thought, “I really have to sleep with just one person for the rest of my life!?” then you need to be there next week. Can’t wait to dive in with you.
Simple actions to take your life back, know your worth & feel alive no matter how drained, overwhelmed and far gone you feel.