What To Do When There’s Betrayal In Your Marriage
I get that there are things that we don’t feel like we should have to spend money on, like our marriage.
But often the things that we feel comfortable spending our money on are pretty frivolous and don’t positively impact our life.
So many of our beliefs around money are just preconceived notions that have been passed down from generation to generation that aren’t actually grounded in what’s important.
It’s true that a lot of people won’t spend money to make their marriage better. But it’s also true that most people are miserable in their marriages and will be for the rest of their lives. Often people who don’t invest in their marriage, will spend just as much money, if not more, medicating their misery by spending money on clothes, alcohol, extravagant vacations or a super nice car. Most of these spending habits are an attempt to fill a void. A void that’s created by a lack of depth, security, safety, connection, passion, joy and adventure in your marriage.
For me personally, I used to spend a lot of money on really nice wine because I always had so much stress running through my body because I never knew what version of Jonathan was gonna come in the door at the end of the day. Instead of spending the money that I should’ve been spending on therapy or in a course like Modern Marriage, I spent it on alcohol to numb myself out and just live my life in a daze. Let me tell you, the wine only made things worse.
It wasn’t until we dedicated time and money (a lot more than this course cost by the way) that I actually saved a lot of money overall, and a lot of time in other parts of my life because I wasn’t looking for all these different ways to fill the void that was created by my marriage.
We created Modern Marriage because we felt like a lot of couples are just not going to go to therapy because it takes too much time and the cost can really add up if it’s not covered by insurance.
We really believe in therapy, and we think everyone should go, but for the people who desire a more private, lower cost, more efficient type of support, we think that Modern Marriage is a really great fit. It also costs less than two date nights a month.
I want to invite you, if you really don’t feel like you have the money, to look at what you are currently spending your money on and which of those things could be ways you a filling a void? Or, where could you find $200 a month?
Really lean in to – is it really too expensive and do you truly not have the money? Or are you just uncomfortable spending money on your marriage?
And can you lean in just a bit more that you felt completely ok with spending many thousands of dollars on a wedding but you won’t spend $600 to keep the marriage alive? That just seems silly to me.
My mother always used to say that we go to the doctor to take care of our bodies, and we get therapists or coaches to support us with our minds and our relationships. Imagine how much better your life would be if your marriage was harmonious, passionate, equitable and fun?
How much money are you willing to spend on your happiness?
Simple actions to take your life back, know your worth & feel alive no matter how drained, overwhelmed and far gone you feel.