A sacred brag on how great my marriage is right now
We’re doing a little Throwback Thursday to my post around this time last year. It’s a good one and a tradition you can start with your girlfriends year after year.
I sat down with some of the most successful and creative women I know to craft this next year. These women had big years this past year and are planning on having an even bigger year in 2016. And I’m not just talking about money. These women are having babies, buying houses, crafting spiritual practices, writing books and falling in love.
STEP ONE. SET THE SCENE.
Our goal and intentions feel so much more tangible when we can physically create how we want to feel around us. Do you want your year to be filled with elegance? More nature? Girlfriends? Do you want to let go of perfectionism? How you want to feel should dictate the scene you set. You may want to have a dinner party, go sit under a tree, gather your closest friends at a cafe or sit next to your pile of unfolded laundry and relish in the messiness.
STEP TWO. CELEBRATE YOUR YEAR.
So often, especially when you are an ambitious woman (which I know you are), we skip over the most important part of goal setting, celebrating!! We can’t craft an amazing year unless we learn from our last, the good and the bad. In your journal, answer the following questions:
STEP THREE. CRAFTING A MEANINGFUL 2016.
Here’s the fun part. Take some time to answer the following questions about the next year. I find it really helpful to be in a group of girlfriends, family or your partner to share with while you are brainstorming. It helps get the excitement going. I also want you to think about this with every question, “How can I infuse more meaning and intention into each area?”
STEP FOUR. IDENTIFY THE OBSTACLES.
2016 will be no different than any other year. There will still be obstacles, fears and self doubt. Accomplishing these goals you just wrote about will not be easy, but that doesn’t mean you should give up. I always say, doing XYZ will never be easy, so you might as well do it now! However, you have a much higher chance of accomplishing your goals if you are aware of the obstacles and prepare for them.
“Focus on what makes your style unique to YOU. You should walk out of the house saying, “This represents who I am and I look GOOD.” Some easy go-tos: a bright lipstick, a personalized mani, statement jewelry, or a bold scarf.”
MELANIE KLUGER, Personal Stylist, Headoverheelswithmelanie.com
“Start your new year by committing to one simple + life-changing habit: drink one green smoothie a day. Boost your energy naturally with the sweet and detoxifying green smoothie recipe below to give you that extra pep in your step.”
JADAH SELLNER, Author and Co-Founder of SimpleGreenSmoothies.com
“Clean out the “secret” cluttered corners of your space… your closets, drawers, filing cabinets, etc. Having clutter behind closed doors creates feelings of shame, guilt, overwhelm and feeling like a fraud. As you organize these areas, notice how much calmer and more aligned you feel in your life.”
REBECCA MCLOUGHLIN, Interior Coach and Founder of Beautiful Living, RebeccaMcLoughlin.com
“Learn some one dish meals! When it comes to getting a healthy dinner on the table, the last thing we want to be doing after a long day’s work is spending loads of time in the kitchen prepping, cooking and cleaning. Check out the Slow Roasted Citrus Salmon recipe below to give it a whirl.”
CLAUDINE DAGIT, Chef and Event Planner, CookingWithClaudine.com
STEP FIVE. GET IT ON THE CALENDAR.
When it comes to goal setting I see three main reasons why they don’t come to fruition.
1, You try to add more stuff into your life without taking anything away. 2, You don’t make your new goal a priority by putting real time towards it. For those reasons, it is so important to create time for your new goals.
Let’s say you have a goal of going for a walk outside every day, I want you to spend some time with your daily calendar to schedule it in. Since going for a walk could take 45 minutes, you may have to let something go like doing the dishes or making your kids’ lunch. Maybe you now need to consider getting a housekeeper to come clean more often or you need to ask your partner to make the kids’ lunches instead of you.
Another thing to consider is when your personal goals and career goals could be at odds with each other. Perhaps you have a goal of travelling more, but you only get 10 days of vacation. Or maybe you’ve already committed to going to visit your family three times next year which doesn’t give you space to trek through Nepal. What do you need to negotiate at work or cancel in order to make this a reality?
That’s it! Get on the phone or send an email RIGHT NOW to find a time to gather your girlfriends together to craft 2016.
As for me, there’s so much I want to accomplish in 2016, but the most important thing for me is to find my sweet spot between work, motherhood and myself. It’s a constant struggle for me as it is for most moms, but I am committed to striving for my happy place in all areas of my life.
In the comments below I want to know of any question you would add to this worksheet and what YOUR number one goal is for 2016.
SLOW ROASTED CITRUS SALMON
2 salmon portions
1 fennel bulb (thinly sliced)
1 blood orange
Preheat your oven to 275°. Thinly slice the fennel and citrus and toss with extra virgin olive oil (or coconut oil) and quality salt and fresh pepper and place into the bottom of a shallow baking dish. Place salmon over the veggies, drizzle with olive oil and sprinkle with salt and pepper. Bake at 275° for 35 minutes for medium rare.
Chef’s notes: Garnish with dill and citrus zest for a fresh bang of flavor! This pairs perfectly with a whole grain like brown rice or quinoa and a crisp glass of Sauvignon Blanc.For more recipes, click here.
TROPICAL TUMERIC CLEANSER GREEN SMOOTHIE
2 cups kale
2 cups coconut milk
2 cups pineapple
1 cup mango
Juice of 1/2 lemon
1 tablespoon fresh ginger
1/4 teaspoon ground turmeric, to taste
Blend kale and coconut milk until smooth. Add remaining ingredients, and blend until smooth.*Use at least one frozen fruit to make smoothie cold.For more recipes, click here.
Simple actions to take your life back, know your worth & feel alive no matter how drained, overwhelmed and far gone you feel.