Want to lose weight more than anything?

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I got an email from an old client telling me that she appreciated everything that I was doing, trying to get women to create an amazing life, “but I really just want to lose weight, that’s what I want more than anything.”

I’ve been known to give a little tough love so I responded with…

Really? You want a tight ass more than love, more than snuggling on the couch with your soul mate?

You want a tiny waist more than your art to be presented in a gallery, more than being featured as the “woman to watch” in your favorite magazine?

You want thin arms more than having girlfriends who will ditch work on a moment’s notice and head to the beach, more than someone to hold you when you feel like you can’t move another step?

You want a flat tummy more than feeling the hot sand under your feet while you look out into turquoise waters spotted with dolphins, more than the rush of running through the woods with sticks breaking under your feet?

Do you really?

I never heard back.

So all I can do is ask you.  Do you really just want to lose weight? Or do you want more?

Would you happily sacrifice model worthy legs for a lifetime of love and great sex?  I would in a heartbeat.

And what I know to be true because I’ve done it myself, and I’ve helped hundreds of women do the same, is that when we go after what you really want, you finally create the body you were always meant to have.  And you wouldn’t want to change a thing.

Go get it.

In the comments below, I want to know, what do you want more than losing weight?



Killer Confidence, Shorts, and Feeling like Beyoncé


Photo by Abi Q Photography of Sarah (working that felt hat) styled by Melanie Kluger

When I first met Melanie, she walked in wearing a straw fedora and a killer smile and I instantly knew I not only wanted to work with her, I wanted to be her friend.  We are totally cut from the same cloth.  Catch us shopping for a photoshoot together and you can’t tell if it’s two best friends on a mall extravaganza or two co-workers planning next week’s shoot.  That’s because we are doing both.  Melanie has been my stylist for the past three years.  We have worked together on everything from speaking engagements and photoshoots, to personal shopping and closet makeovers.

Through working with Melanie I now have the tools to put together outfits that are uniquely me and make me feel fantastic.  She pushed me out of my comfort zone but in such a nice way that I didn’t even realize it was happening.  All of a sudden I was in a fur vest and loving it.  She has transformed my closet, my outlook on clothing and my love for bangles.  Working with her has made me more polished and confident when I start my day. So glad she’s here today to talk to you ladies about developing confidence through clothes. 

From Melanie:


Ever see a picture of a girl and think, “I want to look just like her”.  We have all been there, had a total girl crush. Chances are, that girl in the picture is not just pretty, or cool, but she’s exuding confidence.  She might also be rocking a killer pair of shorts.  How does she do it?  Those ladies usually have one thing in common.  They are truly self confident.  You may think it’s the fedora she’s wearing that you wish you could pull off.  But the actual culprit that is making you want to be her bestie is her self assured presence.  As a former costume designer I can tell you first hand, that if an actress didn’t like what she was wearing, it showed on stage.  Just in their attitude, they were telling the audience “I don’t feel good in this.”  That is where I first started to notice a trend among women.  CONFIDENCE IS EVERYTHING.  Whether it is for an actress, a bride, or an entrepreneur, my ultimate styling goal is the same. To make you feel amazing in your clothes.  So, how do we get said confidence?  Well, I’m here to tell you.

First of all, let’s talk about your favorite item of clothing.  Now think about how you feel when you wear it.  That is how I want you to feel in all of your clothes. When I wear my favorite outfit I know I’m going to have a good day.  I put that energy out into the world without even realizing it.  From the moment I get dressed until the moment I come home I am giving off the “I look amazing and I know it vibe.”   Think about what would happen if you felt that way every time you walked out your door.  Pretty amazing, right?

There are a few small steps that will help make you exude that self-confidence we all crave.

1) Step one is going to sound basic. But it’s crucial.  Let me break it down.  Shower. Hair. Makeup.  There is absolutely NO way to feel fantastic if you have greasy hair.  As a new mom I totally get that it can be tricky to always find the time for a beauty routine.  But trust me, you will be so happy you made the effort in the morning. It can be as simple as a quick shower, top knot and some lip gloss, or as time-consuming as a blow-out with full makeup.  Whatever you have time for, but a little effort is imperative.

2) Making the outfit complete.  One thing I love working with clients on is accessorizing.  Accessories can turn a look from blah to polished in a pinch.  It also will make you feel more “put together”.  I’m a firm believer that you get more compliments on your outfit when you have accessories on.  And nothing builds self-confidence more than compliments.  Nothing!

3) Whatever your favorite body part is, flaunt it. Whatever your favorite body part is, flaunt it.  Work it. Shake what yo mama gave ya.  Why do you think people love Beyoncé so much?  Is it because of her amazing highlights in Destiny’s Child?  Well… it might have started there but that’s not the point I was trying to make.  It’s because she is SELLING IT HARD.  Her inner beauty shines through because it is clear that she loves herself, her body and her life.

Oh, what’s that? You’d like to see an example. BOOM. Here is Beyoncé with her hair and makeup done, wearing short shorts with accessories to spare. Love it.

beyonce in shorts


So now comes the hard part.  The same way we were envisioning our favorite outfit, now I want you to pinpoint something that you haven’t worn because you lacked the self-confidence to do so.  Whether it’s a pair of shorts or a tight red dress I want you to go out and ROCK that outfit.  Now, you might be saying “but this pencil skirt isn’t flattering”.  Or, “Green doesn’t look right on my skin tone.”  And to comments like this I am going to say the least “stylist” thing I could possibly say.  None of that matters as long as it makes you feel good.  I’m just not the kind of stylist who sticks to rules.  Yes, of course if you really don’t like v-necks then don’t wear them.  But if you have always wanted to wear a straw hat or a fuschia lipstick, or a sparkly dress, do it!  I have a feeling you will surprise yourself and ultimately feel quite liberated.

When I went to Wikipedia and looked up the definition of “self confident”, this is what it said:

 When one does not dwell on negative consequences one can be more ‘self-confident’ because one is worrying far less about failure or the disapproval of others following potential failure. One is then more likely to focus on the actual situation which means that enjoyment and success in that situation is also more probable. 

WOW.   Pretty mind blowing stuff, am I right?  It starts with a pair of shorts and ends with enjoyment and success.  Tweet it!

In true Sarah Jenks fashion, I’m giving you homework.  I’d like you to take an item out of your closet that makes you feel amazing.  Take a picture and instagram it, facebook it, tweet it, share it with the world.  Make sure to use the hashtag #confidentstyle and tag @sarahejenks and @hohwithmelanie. And when you see someone else’s Instagram post, comment on it!

Let’s all help each other on this journey to self-confidence.

I talk a lot more about self-confidence through clothes in my FREE Style Guide “How to Style a T Shirt and Jeans”. In this guide, you will learn how to go jeans shopping for your body type, the right t-shirt to buy, as well as three ways to style them to perfection.  Stick with me and you will feel well versed in the art of creating a look from head to toe.  If you put in the work, you will undoubtedly see instant results and your confidence will start to soar.  Head right here to get all the goods.

If you would like to work with me personally on how to gain confidence through your wardrobe, I would absolutely love to be a part of your journey. Click here so we can start the transformation.




11 things that are better than coffee


Red lipstick
An hour of reading magazines
A cold shower
Green juice
Winking at a stranger
Dancing naked in your room
High heels
A cart wheel
Ice cubes on your ears
A gorgeous bra
10 deep breaths out the window

Enjoy waking up.  Save coffee for your dates and ploys to get them to come upstairs.


Beauty secrets from my makeup artist


Today I want to introduce my good friend and personal makeup and hair artist, Melissa Hoffmann. Melissa has been doing my hair and makeup for my photo shoots, videos, and special events since we met when I first moved to San Francisco 3 years ago. After working with her, she is the only one I let touch my face. I loved the way she did my makeup and hair so much that she suggested a lesson to teach me how to do it myself.

After my lesson with her, I started getting tons of compliments on my makeup and hair, which felt amazing.

Melissa and I have a shared beauty philosophy, that beauty comes from the inside but it doesn’t have to stay there, and every woman deserves to feel beautiful. Something amazing happens to our energy, our spark, our self-confidence when we spend time pampering ourselves and use products that make us feel good. 

I’m so happy that I get to introduce her and share some of her wisdom with you today. Make sure to check out her blog for her weekly beauty tips on how to be your most beautiful self.

Melissa is going to walk you through how to go from Drab to Fab, both in how you look, and how you feel.

melissa hoffmann

Go From Drab to Fab.

Have you ever woken up, looked in the mirror and felt like you didn’t look hot? Maybe you are having a bad day, or feeling down and discouraged. Or maybe you feel like this every day because you are too busy in the morning to do your hair and makeup and end up leaving the house feeling frumpy. Or you feel guilty about spending an hour or more on your morning beauty routine because it feels superficial and frivolous. You feel like you should be doing something more productive, like taking care of the kids, or working on your business.

As a Makeup and Hair Artist who works with hundreds of women, from entrepreneurs, to new moms and brides, to models, I hear this a lot (yes, even from the models!). They tell me that they often feel drab and unstylish, or don’t know how to do their hair or makeup so they think, why bother. And believe me, there are plenty of days that I feel frumpy too.  Don’t let it keep you down, sometimes you have to fake it until you feel it, and I can help you with a few easy tips (and some words of encouragement).

The best way to do this is to do your makeup and hair (and wear a fabulous outfit, but I’m going to let Melanie Kluger handle that next month). I know sometimes the last thing you want to do is spend time getting ready. But let me tell you why this is so important:

Doing your makeup and hair can bring out your inner confidence. Think of how you feel after you leave your hairstylist’s salon with a new haircut and color. You feel amazing, right? Now don’t you want to feel that way every day? You can just by taking an extra 30-60 minutes (or more!) to pamper yourself. And there’s nothing vain or wrong with wanting to feel and look pretty. If you hear that negative voice in your head telling you this, make sure you tell it “I am beautiful and I am worth it!

When you start your day with your makeup done and your hair looking great, you’re going to feel more confident, be in a better mood, and show up as your true self at work and in your daily interactions with others.

Here are some simple tips to help you look like you’re on top of the world.

1. Have a beautiful, glowing complexion. Nothing looks more polished and pretty than having beautiful skin. And even if you weren’t born with clear skin, there are lots of ways to look like it. Use a tinted moisturizer or foundation to even out your skin tone and cover up any redness, dark circles or blemishes. You can use a concealer too if you need extra coverage. Don’t forget to apply a pretty blush to your cheeks. I love Nars Orgasm, there’s a reason why it’s a cult favorite. Extra points if you use a highlighter on the tops of your cheekbones and a bronzer for a sunkissed glow.

2. Do a soft smoky eye. This is Sarah’s favorite personal look (you can see a before and after of her below), and it looks amazing on everyone. There are many different ways to do a smoky eye, but this is a simple way to achieve this pretty look. Start with a light bronze eyeshadow swept all over the lid and into the crease. My favorites are Toasted from the Naked Palette (Urban Decay) or Mulch from MAC. Make sure to blend all your edges with a clean fluffy brush so there are no hard edges. Take either a dark brown, charcoal or black kohl pencil and line the top lashes and a little into the bottom lashes. Rather than lining under the lash line, put your pencil into it and and dot in between the lashes. It doesn’t have to be perfect, because you’re going to smudge it. Now you can take a qtip or a smaller stiff brush and blend your liner back and forth on the top and bottom. This is what gives smokiness to your eyes. You can use your bronze shadow on your small brush to help smudge the liner even more. Now finish with 1-2 coats of your favorite mascara.


3. Wear a fun lipstick. The color can be your choice of either natural or bold, but do wear color on your lips. Not wearing anything on your lips can make your makeup look unfinished, and this is all about looking fabulous. I love wearing a hot pink, coral, or sexy red when I’m feeling drab. I instantly feel pretty and better about myself, and people will take notice. It shows confidence, even when you’re not feeling it. If you don’t have one, I recommend splurging on a ridiculously expensive one from a premium cosmetic line. And what better way to squeeze in a little retail therapy that won’t break the bank. For the ultimate in treating yourself, I’d go with something from Chanel, or Tom Ford. For a more affordable treat, I love the fuchsia Girl About Town from MAC or Sarah’s favorite, So Chaud from MAC, a beautiful orange red. Now I know the “rules” say you’re not supposed to wear a bold lip with a smoky eye, but makeup is art and an expression of how you feel, so throw out the rules and do what makes you feel good!


4. Try a new hairstyle. Getting out of your hair rut can really help you fake a good mood that can turn your day around. Stalk Pinterest for inspiration and just play with your hair. You can add some loose waves with a curling wand, a fun hair piece like a headband or clip, or put in a braid or two for a fun, boho vibe. Get rid of dull, greasy bed head with some dry shampoo, teasing or flipping your head over for a good shake and a light shine spray and you’ll be a new woman.

5. And last but not least, don’t forget about showing a big smile. If you take care of your yourself every day, your smile will come naturally.

Trust me, doing a little extra TLC for yourself when it comes to your hair and makeup will do wonders for improving your self-confidence. In the comments below, let us know what beauty secrets you have for faking it.  Even better, post a picture on Instagram of you modeling your beauty tip and hashtag #fromdrabtofab, and don’t forget to tag @sarahejenks and @melissamariemakeup so we can see your fabulous self.

If you want to learn more about working with me to find your signature beauty style, or for free makeup and hair tips, visit my blog and sign up for my weekly Beauty Bites at www.melissahoffmann.com.

Stay beautiful,