Why Isn’t Anyone Talking About How Hard it is to Be a Mom?

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Since becoming a Mom I’ve been surrounding myself with other moms who are willing to really go there.  I wasn’t interested in having friendships that centered around comparison, perfection or pretending everything is great, because when it comes to motherhood, it’s usually not! And that’s ok.

One of my closest friends, Amy Ahlers and I frequently get into the torture of sleep training or the confusion around how to raise daughters with good body image.  Just a few days ago I texted her,

What do you do when your nanny cancels, you have 3 blog posts to write and the baby won’t stop crying?

I find that day drinking is really helpful”, she replied.  Thank god for Amy.  This is even more hilarious because she’s a super spiritual, very successful life coach who probably could have spout out any canned response.

During almost every conversation about how hard it is to be a mom and the ridiculous things that happened to us the past week, one of us screams, “WHY ISN’T ANYONE TALKING ABOUT THIS!?”

It really is a vicious cycle – very few people talk about the truth of the struggle of motherhood and therefore when any of us feel overwhelmed, confused, pissed or exhausted, we think we are the only ones feeling this way, so we don’t say anything, and the cycle continues.  Cue high rates of postpartum depression, isolation, eating disorders and divorce.

Luckily, Amy has set out to change that with her new podcast, Mama Truth: Embrace the Messiness and Magic of Motherhood.   Every time I listen to one of Amy’s podcasts I just feel less crazy, like I’m not alone and like I am doing the best job I can instead of thinking I’m the worst mom in the world.

A few weeks ago Amy and I sat down to get real about being in a post-baby body, how to learn to love her, take care of her and find our womanhood again.  We also got into the very hard topic of ending the body wars for our sons and daughters.

You can listen to our podcast here.

And while you’re there, make sure to check out a few more of her podcasts.  “Screw being perfect” is one of my favorites:). You can also join the Mama Truth Circle for free to meet your people.

And being a mom is never easy, and we need each other to move through some of these difficult topics.  If you know someone who is struggling with this or who may find this helpful, I hope you’ll send them this.  Why stay on the surface when we can get deep and real with each other?

Make sure to come back to the blog and let me know what you think.




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