…means to me that you remember you are multidimensional and completely unique.  Like the seasons of the Earth and the phases of the Moon, you change.

You are Wise, Creative, Sensual, Nurturing, and Ambitious.

You are quiet and bold, reserved and wild, a mother and sexy, angry and loving.

 

And because there is no one like you anywhere, you are going to do life, motherhood, work, and self-care differently from everyone.

 

So why are we always trying to fit ourselves into a box? And why is it that even though we so desperately long to create a life that truly feels like OURS, everything seems to get in the way…

 

We’ve been sold this one-size-fits-all solution to happiness. Like if we can just look like a model, get married, buy a cute house, and have a couple kids, then we’ll be completely fulfilled.

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Before I had kids, I devoted years of my life to being at peace with my body and challenging the “body box” that so many women feel pressured to fit into. The freedom and joy I experienced birthed my international program Live More Weigh Less, where thousands of women have found freedom from emotional eating and fallen in love with their unique and powerful bodies.

 

When I had my first child, I felt pressure to fit myself into the “good mom” box. I stopped thinking about what I wanted and focused on how a “good mom” is supposed to act.  As I spent my time running errands, making meals for my family, doing laundry, and making sure my kid was getting everything he needed – all while financially supporting my family – I lost touch with who I was and what I wanted.

 

But the truth is that women are innately powerful, insanely unique, and have these wild, magical, creative souls. We can act like 5 different people in the span of a day. This is what makes us amazing.

 

And when we embrace this range of how we express ourselves, and how unique each of us are, we create a life that is as distinct as our fingerprints. None of us are meant to do motherhood the same way, work the same number of hours, or have the same kind of marriage.  When we try to fit ourselves into a box, we lose the magic of who we are.

 

And on top of that, we’re taught that our job as mothers is to run around like crazy making sure our partners and kids are happy and growing, getting to all of their activities, being fed and loved and fulfilled… while we are left too tired and overwhelmed to do the same for ourselves.

 

And what’s even worse, when we get real about how unfulfilled we are and how disconnected we are from our desires and dreams, we feel guilty for wanting more, and we just put on a happy face and keep going like the “good mother” that we should be, wondering why everyone else seems to be enjoying life while we’re starting to feel so empty inside.

 

After I had kids, everything looked great on the outside: Handsome Doctor Husband, cute curly-haired kids, and me with a flashy Instagram feed and successful business. But on the inside I was dissatisfied, overwhelmed, and deeply unhappy.

 

I’d lost my connection to my soul and a higher power, I didn’t feel nourished, I dreaded getting out of bed in the morning, I was constantly in survival mode, and I had no idea who I was or what was going to make me happy. I honestly felt dead inside.

 

Every time Jonathan and I would talk about our future, my throat would tighten. Something about the life we were creating didn’t feel right to me.

 

I finally started to create space for myself, which allowed me to see the ways I was prioritizing the life I felt like I “should want” instead of the life that was a true expression of who I am.

 

I spent the next year soul searching with the intention of forging a deep connection with my soul and the magic that exists in the world around me. And I just kept asking myself, “Who am I and what do I really want?”

 

This led to our buying a retreat center in Medfield, MA, where women come to connect with who they are and what they truly desire. Seeing this dream become a reality so quickly was the most crazy magical thing that’s ever happened to me.  

Jonathan and I strive to create lives that are aligned with who we are and are always watching out for ways in which we feel pressure to fit into a box. Our house is a bit wild, always filled with flowers and magical objects. I strive to create a space that tells the story of our family and who we are as individuals. Since I no longer do a bunch of stuff I don’t want to do, my days can be a mix of work, rituals, and downtime.  

 

Since I’ve embraced the life that is a true expression of me, I have a better with relationship with my children – they are happier and more settled. Jonathan and I are in sync and laugh way more. I’m not immune to the same ups and downs and challenges as a woman, but there’s a comfort and strength I feel from my life being completely mine. I just feel alive, creative, and whole.


 

On this site you will find ways to work with me and connect with other cool spiritual women. My most popular program is Whole Woman, a monthly membership for women who feel too tired and overwhelmed to pay attention to their own dreams and desires but are sick of always trying to fit inside a box and long to create a life that is a true expression of their unique magic. To join the hundreds of women in creating a life that is YOURS, click here.

 

If you are interested in attending an event at Hawthorn Farm in Medfield, MA, click here.

 

To sign up for my Free Online Workshop, The 4 Lies that Keep Women Overwhelmed, Plagued with Guilt, and Feeling Like They Aren’t Enough, click here.


 

If you would like to get in touch with someone on our team please fill out the contact form below. We can’t wait to hear from you!

TESTIMONIALS

  • “There is no “right” type of person to benefit from Sarah’s life-altering work; there is no “one” lifestyle or business strategy that it she is better aligned with. I sat in a room of engineers, mathematicians, health coaches, models and actresses, yoga instructors, and so many more. Some say Spirit, some say Divine Feminine… for me I follow God — but in our hearts as we sat in the circle and supported one another, nothing could be more clear than we were all channeling the same life-giving force and working together to change the world.”

    – Chellie
  • “In 2010, my roommate and I won fluke tickets to an NYC bridal expo, where I first met Sarah. Her celebration of pleasure, the body, joy, beauty, and gratitude immediately impacted me. Her emails started to have a HUGE impact on my life right away… even though, she was a weight loss coach! I wasn’t really trying to lose any weight, but her method, which was all about infusing life with so much magic and pleasure that food could be FOOD rather than an escape, still resonated so much. Ultimately, she was teaching women to listen to their bodies, lead with their hearts, and learn from their intuition. She has truly been one of the most profound teachers of my life.”

    – Kim Pendleton
  • “Sarah has a unique way of getting to the heart of what you need versus what you believe you need.”

    – Melanie

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  • We met 10 years ago, fresh out of @nutritionschool as budding health coaches living in New York City. We now have 5 babies between us, changed our businesses at least 5 times each, done 3 cross country moves and none of us are health coaches anymore 😂. People often ask me how to make connections with successful people so you can get ahead in business. I say, don’t. Find people where you’re at. Forge deep friendships that will carry you through the highs and lows of life. Prioritize spiritual depth, grit and ambition over numbers and followers and one day you’ll find yourself in the company of the most successful and loving women you’ve ever met. @nishamoodley @lovekavita 
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  • “The first new moon of the New Year is the Mother’s New Year” @plansimple.co told me over text last week. “There’s no way Moms (or most people) are ready to celebrate a new year that soon after Christmas. The first new moon is really the beginning.” I have very smart friends.

So the welcome message I’ve been wanting to send I finally put into words on the eve of tomorrow’s powerful new moon in Aquarius. And it has everything to do with the talents and power you’ve been hiding away.

In it, I talk about what you need to sit with tomorrow to make the most of this New Moon, the one question every person needs to ask themselves this year, and what you need to do to stop practicing and performing. My hope is that it lights a fire under your a$$. The letter is in my pro file.

Are you starting to feel the excitement build for 2020? Tomorrow’s New Moon is the perfect time to recommit and reharness your energy.

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  • I’m on my way to Tulum, Mexico for a girls trip, something I’ve done once a year since Marshall was born. It’s brought up a whole new wave of body stuff, which was boiling underneath the surface for some time. I can’t tell you how much I want to be done with this conversation. I can’t tell you how much I wish it was linear, that I could heal and have it be done.  But, my body is my work, no matter how much I avoid it. It’s the doorway to my greatest lessons and evolution, and I just may always have times when it’s hard for the rest of my life, but I’m here for the lesson at hand and have vowed to show up for myself and the specific lessons my soul has chosen. I don’t want my body to matter, but it does. It’s the home for my soul and who I chose to inhabit in this lifetime. It’s hard to live in a woman’s body, I’ve felt judged and ridiculed for what I look like since I was really young. And I’m carrying around lifetimes of trauma in my cells. It takes so so much to feel safe and accepted in this body, but whoa am I committed to trying.

Would it be helpful to start talking about this more? How are you feeling? Tell me below.
  • I’ve been noticing recently how much people tell me Jonathan is a great Dad.  And how rarely people tell me I’m a great Mom. And I don’t think anyone has ever said to Jonathan, “Wow, Sarah’s such a great Mom.” Jonathan is a great Dad, and he should be celebrated for that.  But I think it’s important for us to separate the difference from “being a good parent.” And “being a good parent compared to what’s expected based on traditional gender roles.” I am a great Mom, but not *compared* to what’s culturally expected of me, so people rarely tell me so, and I’ve noticed that I’ve internalized that instead of judging myself based on my own ideals.

So... next time you want to give someone a compliment, ask yourself why, and make sure you’re doling them out to all people who deserve it, regardless of our cultural expectations.  This is how we start to shift internalized patriarchy.

Tag someone who you think is a great mom. And Is this something you’ve experienced? Tell me your thoughts...
  • The cosmic events of this past weekend have affected all of us, whether or not we follow astrology.  Both the Lunar Eclipse and Saturn Conjunct Pluto have created a vacuum that is forcing us to let go of toxic patterns, relationships, business deals and identities that are holding us back from becoming the best versions of ourselves.  If you want more information on the astrology, @jennracioppi is a great resource.

I find that astrology can often be best understood, looking back.

What has been hard for you so far this year? 
What has felt like a nuisance or going backwards?

What fights did you get in this weekend?

What have you been forced to let go of?

What if all of the things that have felt hard, are actually incredible lessons we’re meant to learn in order to become our true selves?

In yesterday’s (belated) Moonday email I wrote about the unexpected area of my life that’s been calling me into more clarity and 6 questions you can ask yourself to make sense of why the heck things have been so hard and how to use them to catapult you to new heights in 2020. We’re being trained for our Great Work.

Are you clear on your lesson? Would you tell us below? I know it will help the rest of us gain clarity. 📷 @spiritdaughter @danica.gim

Sarah Jenks

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