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  • 18
    Jan 2018

    If you’ve ever felt selfish…

    I talk a lot about taking time for you. To not only relax and refuel but to discover who you are and why you’re here. This takes time. Sometimes a lot of time.

    In my own life I travel, go on retreats, spend time with my friends, and choose to work pretty much full time. Many would say I’m selfish – many, in fact, DO – to my face and behind my back. And when I suggest they take 30 minutes a day for themselves, or even a weekend away, I almost always get, “I’d just feel so selfish!”

    These comments come 100% from mothers.

    So let’s unpack this.

    Here is the definition of selfish:


    1 : concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others

    2 : arising from concern with one’s own welfare or advantage in disregard of others

    Key phrase: without regard to others / disregard of others

    So here’s the deal. Imagine yourself 30 or 40 years from now with your daughter. She comes to you in tears. She feels completely overwhelmed, that she’s lost herself. She has no help, her body is unhealthy, she doesn’t know what she loves to do anymore, she can’t remember the last time she was happy.

    Now imagine you told her to take a break, to ask for help, to start exploring what she loves and who she is… Now imagine her looking at you in confusion, and you realize she has no idea how to do that because you never taught her.

    We teach our kids so much. How to read and write and how to be kind to others. We teach them how to ski and play tennis – you know, important life-long skills. We teach them how to stick to their word and follow through.

    But teaching them to take care of themselves, to take time for themselves, to know themselves – that would be selfish of us.


    Your taking time to love yourself and know yourself, to do the things you want to do, is not selfish – it’s good parenting.

    This isn’t doing things at the expense of others or with disregard for your children’s well-being. This is IN SERVICE to your children’s well-being.

    Last year I read an article in The New York Times that compared the way women are subservient to our children’s needs to the way we used to be subservient to our husbands’ needs in the ‘50s. Same pattern, different family members.

    So let’s save the word “selfish” for times when it’s appropriate and instead focus on how we want to lead by example and inspire the next generation of women.




    Events at the Moon Lodge!

    Yoga Every Wednesday from 9:30am-10:30am
    Get details here.

    Vision Board Workshop hosted by Nicole Lewis Sunday January 28th 1-4pm
    Sign up here: https://visionboardjan282018.eventbrite.com.

  • 11
    Jan 2018

    Sacred Spa Ritual For The New Year

    As we sit in this fertile time of introspection and intuition at the beginning of the year, I think it’s so important to not rush into doing. It’s still winter, a time of slowness and silence, but in this space we start to weave the tendrils of our dreams. My friend Kate Northrup calls it the Fertile Void, the time when we have the opportunity to connect with the dreams that have been placed in our souls for years or even lifetimes. In the silence we can make them into words and ideas, and in the spring we can bring them into reality.

    This wintery time holds the same energy as the New Moon (the first glimpse of light after the dark moon, the most potent time for setting intentions), which some of us will be sitting under together next week. If you want to learn more about New Moons and why they are so powerful, click here. And I am so excited to have Jennifer Racioppi, my astrologer and dear friend, joining us to give us the rundown on 2018 so we can prepare and plan for a great year.

    To join us in person in Massachusetts or via livestream online, click below:

    Click here to join us in person in Medfield, MA (space is limited)
    Click here to join via livestream online (and receive the recording)  

    As we come into the time of darkness with the Moon, may we also find stillness and yummy darkness in our lives.

    My favorite tool for slowing down is taking a bath – but not just any bath – a Sacred Spa Ritual. This time is not just for relaxation (although it is very relaxing) but for connection with your inner wisdom.

    A quick note on inner wisdom – I believe that a woman’s power comes from knowing who she is and why she’s here. I believe that to be intimate with our raw, wild, unfiltered selves is to source the fire that will fuel change on many levels, from our own life and family to the world. I’m here to help you find that fire.

    But we need to start with s p a c e in order to connect with that raw part of ourselves.

    Here are the steps to create your Sacred Spa time:

    Step 1: Create the time and set a boundary. Maybe it’s as simple as putting it on your calendar. Maybe you need to get groceries delivered this week so you have time while the kids are at school. Maybe your husband needs to take the lead for an hour on Saturday afternoon. Make sure everyone knows why this time is important to you and put in on your calendar.

    Step 2: Gather beauty from around your home. Grab a basket or bag and collect candles, plants, flowers, or any other beautiful objects you want to have.

    Step 3: Declutter your bathroom (I just gather what I don’t want in there and put it right outside the door, no need to put things away) and place the objects you collected from around the house.

    Step 4: Draw a bath (if you do not have a bath – you can totally have a sacred shower) and light candles. Add bath salts or essential oils if you have them. Light candles. Put on some nice music. (I love Ayla Nereo and MaMuse.)

    Step 5: As you undress, imagine removing stressors from your day with your clothes.

    Step 6: Standing naked beside your tub, set an intention to connect with your real, raw, naked self. The part of you that isn’t here to please anyone or take care of anyone. The part of you that’s always been with you.

    Step 7: Get in the tub and close your eyes. Breathe deeply and just ask, “Who are you? Why are you here? What is this year about for you?” You may hear nothing at first; your inner wisdom, your fire, will be small if you haven’t tended to her, but over time it will grow. This is how you tend to it – sacred, quiet space.

    In the comments on the blog I’d love to hear if you have a sacred spa time practice. I’d also love to know if you have any questions or hesitations. 🙂



    P.S. If you want to experience the power of setting your New Year’s intentions under the New Moon in a circle of incredible women, I hope you’ll join us for my upcoming Workshop + Ceremony: New Moon, New Year, New You on Wednesday, January 17th, from 7pm-10pm. We are gathering online via livestream and in Medfield, Massachusetts, at my home and retreat center, Hawthorn Farm. To sign up to attend in person click here. To sign up to attend via online livestream click here.

    Events at the Moon Lodge!

    New Moon, New Year, New You: January 17th, 7-10pm
    Get tickets to join in-person or via livestream.

    Yoga Every Wednesday from 9:30am-10:30am
    Get details here.

    Vision Board Workshop hosted by Nicole Lewis Sunday January 28th 1-4pm
    Sign up here: https://visionboardjan282018.eventbrite.com.

  • 04
    Jan 2018

    NEW Workshop: New Year New Moon New You (Online + In Person)

    How are you feeling so far in 2018? Do you feel different? Have you made all the changes you said you would last week? Kinda yeah, kinda no?  

    The biggest mistake people make when setting intentions is they think that if they just write them down and WANT to change badly enough, they will. I wish it were that easy.

    The truth is that intentions take follow-up. But not follow-up in the way most people will tell you.  I’ve found that even with strategic planning, scheduling, accountability, and hard work, a lot of my intentions don’t come into reality. Or if they do, they feel forced, like I’m working even harder than I was before I tried to be a better person. The change doesn’t feel part of my being; it feels like a role I’m playing. Do you ever feel that way?

    What I’m about to say may sound weird, but the truth is that the one thing that has really helped me integrate my intentions into my life in a natural way, so that they feel part of me, is Magic.

    Yep. Magic. Specifically, Moon Magic – a timeless practice that women have utilized for thousands and thousands of years.  

    Here’s how it works: You sit in a circle with other women under a New Moon, commit to showing up as your real, raw self, and speak (or write) your intentions into a sacred container.  Very simple. Very powerful.

    What is a New Moon and when does it happen?

    New Moons occur the day after the dark Moon when the first sliver of light (still undetectable to the human eye) emerges as the Earth’s shadow shifts slightly to allow the Sun to reflect its light off of the Moon.  

    Why is it a good time to set intentions?
    There are a few reasons why…

    1. The New Moon marks the beginning of a new lunar cycle that lasts 28 days. Any time we are at the start of something (like the New Year), it is a great time to set intentions.
    2. The Moon will start growing in light every day for 14 days until it reaches Full Moon status. The building of light in the sky plus the increasing gravitational pull of the Moon (we have the highest tides during the Full Moon because the gravitational pull of the Moon combined with the Sun) – this PULLS our intentions into reality.
    3. Darkness turns off our senses and forces us to come inward. If you’ve ever meditated, walked at night without a flashlight, or just gone a day without cell service, you’ll be able to relate to hearing your thoughts and intuition and having heightened awareness during these times.  

    The other times we get to experience these energies is when we’re bleeding, during the winter months (dark, dead, quiet), and at the beginning of the year (beginning of a cycle).

    So just imagine how powerful the New Moon is going to be on January 17th! It’s like an intention-setting triple threat.

    I would love to have you join me for…

    New Year, New Moon, New You
    A workshop + ceremony to clarify your intentions and set them in sacred space to support you in having all your dreams come true in 2018. In Person + Online.

    Wednesday, January 17th, 7pm-10pm

    For in-person in Medfield, Massachusetts click here to sign up (space is limited).

    For Online Livestream (recording included) click here to sign up.

    Women have been gathering under the Moon since the beginning of time to celebrate, practice magic, and connect with the divine energy that flows through the stars, the trees, and our blood.

    Something truly unexplainable happens when women gather in a sacred space. You’ll have to come and experience the magic for yourself.

    Whether you’re a devout Catholic or a seasoned Witch… a maiden, mother, or crone… a lawyer or an artist or a teacher… you are welcome, just as you are. All I ask is that you come with an open mind and a pillow to sit on.

    And I am so excited to have Jennifer Racioppi, my astrologer and dear friend, joining us to give us the rundown on 2018 so we can prepare and plan for a great year.  

    To reserve your spot, simply click here:

    In-Person Sign Up (Space is Limited)

    Online Livestream + Recording

    In-person enrollment closes at 9pm on Monday, January 15, and space is limited, so please sign up as soon as you can if you want to come.

    **** If you aren’t in the area please share with someone who lives in Massachusetts who would be down for this. And if you can make it, please bring a few friends. The more the merrier!

    I can’t wait to be with you!!


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