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  • 30
    Nov 2016

    [Contest: 6-M Subscription + Session w/ Sarah] Are you showing the real you?

    I hope you had an amazing Thanksgiving. Jonathan, the kids and I traveled to Colorado to be with the Brajtbord crew. And I spent the early part of this week getting re-grounded in my home and body after being away.  

    luxe-1I’ve dedicated my career to studying how women wait to create the life we really want. I for one have fallen into the trap of thinking my sex life will come easier when I lose weight, that I will be more relaxed when I have more money, or that motherhood will feel easier when Jonathan is around more (I’m still holding onto this one).  

    A big one I see in my clients all the time is this…

    I am waiting to express who I truly am.

    Many times we have a real me and the me we show to others.  

    • Maybe on the outside, you look understated, pulled together and plain, but on the inside, you’re radiant, opulent and loud.  
    • Maybe on the outside, you look like a retired yoga instructor, but on the inside, you’re a Queen.
    • Maybe on the outside, you look like a vineyard vines advertisement, but on the inside, you’re a witch.

    Come close, I want to tell you something. It’s safe to come out.

    Expression comes in many forms: how we speak, how we spend our time, and how we dress.

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    Today I want to focus on how you dress because we often underestimate the power of this tool.

    I used to dress so others would like me. I chose my outfit to be on trend, to fit in. Now I dress to cultivate how I want to feel, and how to be fully expressed. This means sometimes I’ll wear a really fancy dress to a casual restaurant, or jeans to an event where I know everyone will be wearing a dress. I still do get that pang of “is everyone going to think I’m crazy?” when I walk into public in my expressive outfit, but I know that being the real me out loud is more important to me than that false feeling of safety I thought I was getting by fitting in.

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    The thought, “Is paying attention to my clothes and jewelry vain?”  has crossed my mind a million times. When I go into my soul and ask the question, I am clear that adorning my body with jewels is the same thing as setting up and altar or decorating my house. It shows reverence and recognition of how amazing you are.

    Adorning my body with jewels is the same thing as setting up an altar or decorating my house. It shows reverence and recognition of how amazing you are.  

    If your soul sparkles, wear diamonds.

    If you’re connected to the earth, wear stones.

    If you’re airy, wear feathers.  

    Over the past 6 months, I’ve been gathering gorgeous jewelry from Luxe30.com a monthly subscription where you receive 3 beautiful pieces plus a gift for just $39 a month. Luxe30 believes that you don’t have to wait on your weight, money or a man to have luxury in your life. In a sea of fashion companies that promote perfection, I really commend Luxe30’s courage in standing for your self-expression.  

    Because our missions are so aligned, we are coming together to offer you a really beautiful package:

    When you treat yourself to your first Luxe30 subscription, not only will you receive 50% off your first month, you will have a chance to win:

    • A 6-month subscription to Luxe30 (Worth $300)
    • A 90-minute Self-Expression Session with me to define who you really are and how to let her out. (worth $1000K)

    luxe-6That’s right, everyone who signs up will receive 50% off their first month.

    Go to luxe30.com/sarah NOW to sign up and enter. And don’t forget to enter SARAH at checkout to get the 50% discount! This offer ends on Friday, December 2nd.

    Take some time to think about who you really are, and who you’ve been to the outside world. What are the differences? Why do you want to hide? Are you worried about being judged? For what specifically?

    Holding you in your fullest expression.

    Lots of love,
    Sarah

    P.S. When Luxe30 asked me to model their jewelry for them in a recent shoot with the founder, Marnelli Martin shot by Kat Harris, I was a full body YES. We spent the day exploring our edge of fully stepping into our own expression of femininity, sensuality, radiance, play and depth.  

  • 20
    Nov 2016

    Working + Parenting by the stars

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    Years ago, I stared at the back of my closet door while bouncing on my yoga ball in the dark. The baby in my arms was supposedly mine but felt like a stranger. I was wedged in between the most expensive crib on the market and a painted IKEA dresser. Every 3 bounces or so, the mobile of woodland animals I made myself that hung from the ceiling, would brush the top of my head. I bought this furniture while fantasizing about the sweet moments I’d have with this little boy in our closet-turned-summer-camp themed nursery. My reality was a screaming child and scared woman who couldn’t imagine a worse fate than being stuck in a dark closet with a baby who refuses to sleep. I choked out sections of, “Yesterday a child came out to wander, caught a dragonfly inside a jar” in between sobs inspired by the gross separation of my expectations of motherhood and my reality.

    All I could think was, I thought I would be better at this.

    A year before I had Marshall I received an astrology reading that said that motherhood was a big part of my life purpose, would come easily and bring so much happiness. I held onto that promise and every month into motherhood I wondered when it was going to come true.

    Two years went by, another baby joined us and I still felt out of place. Who I thought I was, was not showing up. When my feelings about being a bad mom were too much to bear, I started praying and asking for help. What I received was, You aren’t who you think you are. Huh?

    At the same time, I felt a deep longing to learn more about the Moon, Stars, and Earth. I called the astrologer I worked with all those years ago.

    I remembered that for our first reading I gave Jenn Racioppi an approximate birth time of 6am. Sometimes even a 15-minute difference can change your chart, so I asked my Dad to pull out my birth certificate that had my exact birth time – 10:24PM (?!). 

    So Jenn and I gathered for another session, this time armed with my actual birth time.  

    Let’s take a second to talk about what astrology is… From Jenn Racioppi:

    We are all connected to the moon, the stars, and each other. As above, so below. Astrology is simply the study of possibility. It provides a road map of who you are and the potential of your life.

    Astrology helps women become better leaders in their lives, businesses, and work. It can be used to understand our strengths, discover our passions and priorities, and dig deep into our most authentic selves.

    Astrology tells us how to use the energy around us to our best advantage so we can get into a state of flow with our bodies and our work. But it does not offer any guarantees. Our futures are entirely up to us. You have the power to create and change your destiny at any given moment of your life.

    When we met on the phone for a session (God bless the internet), she explained to me that she looks at the constellations that were rising over the horizon and how they lined up with the planets (which is why exact birth time, and location is so important) the second I took my first breath.  I think I’m explaining this right, but I’m still a novice. From that information she can tell about my purpose, personality, things that inspire me, what things are hard for me, what comes easily… basically anything. It’s magic.  

    Turns out, my life mission has nothing to do with motherhood, and everything to do with ambition, taking big risks, writing and spirituality. Now, this doesn’t mean I wasn’t meant to have children, just that they aren’t the main source of my happiness, my purpose or mission in life.  

    So much in me started to make sense after I learned this about myself.

    I realized that when I became a mom, I started to see my ambition as a bad thing. I mislabeled it as being a workaholic, greedy or a tool to avoid my children. I was living in the shadow of constant judgment of who I really was.

    Turns out my ambition is my most powerful trait and I will only experience freedom if I follow that part of myself. From that place, I was able to clearly see where I wanted to take my business. I planned my Live More Weigh Less exit strategy and made room for my book.

    The most incredible change in me after my reading with Jenn was that my experience of being a mother totally shifted.

    I believe that we all choose our parents, and I have always known that my biggest priority as a mother is to show my children how to be a fully expressed woman (even though I secretly felt guilty for what that was looking like). So I believe that my kids knew what they were getting into when they chose to be my children, and instead of seeing that my ambition was going to ruin my kids, I got that IGNORING my ambition was going to ruin them, because ignoring that would create so much anxiety, depression, and confusion within me. And they needed the best version of me as possible.

    Without the constant judgment of my perceived “obsession with work / avoidance of my children” I had space to see what I actually did love about being a mother and my children. As I accepted who I naturally was, I could accept how my children naturally are (wild, incredibly emotional and very loud). I settled into a schedule and rhythm that worked for me and my kids and we’ve entered a period where we all feel close and connected to each other.  I mean, it’s still a total sh*t show over here, but at least we’re bonding, and I don’t feel like a fraud. 

    I know I am still at the beginning of my motherhood journey but I really believe that we don’t need to sacrifice who we are for our kids, in fact, I believe that courageously choosing to be who we really are is the best gift we can give our children because it gives them permission to be themselves.

    What’s so great about astrology is that I have a deep understanding of why I am the way I am, what is happening in the world around me and how to use that to my benefit.  

    Knowing who you really are is the source of your power.

    I went on to learn about my kids through their astrology and Jonathan and I did a session together. So often we assume that the people we live with are exactly like us in different packaging. Not so much. Once Jenn could explain to Jonathan that I have no earth in my chart so remembering details and creating complete grocery lists are not my forte, he finally stopped getting frustrated with me and just enjoyed all the fire I bring to his life.  

    Jenn explained to me that regardless of Jonathan being in medicine, this time in his life was going to be an insane dedication to his work with total immersion and it was all in service of his soul’s journey. I instantly felt my resentment fly out the window.

    There’s so much more to tell you guys about what I’m creating in my life and stepping into, so make sure to keep opening your letters from me in the coming weeks.

    In the meantime, you can connect with Jenn here and see how you can step into your full potential and live a magical life. And I can’t recommend her work enough and the relief, confidence, and momentum you’ll receive from truly understanding yourself in this way. You can sign up by entering your name and email on her website to receive: 

    + A step-by-step guide to navigating the phases of the moon
    + Everything you need to know about your sun sign
    + The new rules of success & satisfaction for women in charge 

    …And learn about stepping into your feminine power, (I know, what a gift) here: http://jenniferracioppi.com/

    In the comments below, I’d love to hear your experiences with astrology, your identity, motherhood and how it has all fit together for you.

    Love,
    Sarah

     

  • 14
    Nov 2016

    A vulnerable conversation about motherhood, working, self-care and finding the time

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    I think finding a “balance” between being a mom and working is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. But it wasn’t because I wanted to be home all the time and it couldn’t, it was because I thought I was going to want to be home all the time but I didn’t. I saw all of the cultural norms, societal pressures and unconscious belief system play out in the most stereotypical way. And I thought I was going to be strong and confident enough to be immune to all of this, HA!.

    And even as I write this to you, I am present to my inner critic telling me, “you aren’t a real mom because you don’t want to be with your kids all the time.” I get that it’s ridiculous, but the truth is that these belief systems are deeply rooted in me and I am working hard to choose what feels good in my soul, and then own that I am a wonderful mom, a great business woman and a woman who takes care of herself (since I’m telling you to do it all the time).

    My journey to getting clear on this in myself is to seek out the guidance of mothers who I see doing things their way, and feeling good about it. I may not want to set up my schedule exactly like theirs, but there is wisdom on how they came to peace around their lifestyle.

    One of these women I call often is Briana Borten. She is a mother to an 8 year old and 2 year old girls, the CEO of Dragon Tree (a company made up of 3 spas, a product line, Dream Book + Planner, and many information products) and the co-author of the upcoming book, The Well Life which she wrote with her amazing husband, Dr. Peter Borten. She also travels, has a great marriage, takes great care of her body, is so gorgeous and the most amazing friend. And she’s relaxed most of the time. It’s weird. And if I wasn’t so evolved, I would hate her. But she’s one of my best friends and I get to lean on her for support.

    Briana and I recently sat down to talk about work, motherhood, what self-care really means (it’s not just about taking baths and a getting a massage), our parents, ambition… and how they’re all related.

    You can listen to our intimate conversation here:

    Click here to take advantage of Briana’s generous gift when you pre-order the Well Life by November 15th.

    It was so fun being able to talk instead of type to you guys this week 🙂 Let me know in the comments below your biggest takeaway from our conversation and where you are in this journey.

    Big hugs,
    Sarah

    P.S. I just finished reading the Well Life and it had a huge impact on me. Make sure to listen to our conversation above to hear about the changes I’ve made.

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