“Unused creativity is not benign. It metastasizes. It turns into grief, rage, sorrow, judgement and shame.” – Brene Brown
Two weeks ago I told you I felt like I was dying because I was spending all day with my kids for a few weeks. Many of you could relate to the particular psychosis that takes over. Some of you said in so many words, “You just don’t have a nanny for a few weeks, get a grip.” And I was like, yep, I agree! Get a grip, Sarah.
My head was telling me, Sarah, being a mother is your job! There should be nothing more important than these kids. You get to be their mother!! But instead I felt dread, depression, judgement, and overwhelm. My experience and my reality didn’t seem to add up.
After some soul searching, therapy, and checking in with my tribe, I landed on something true for me, that I’m betting is true for you too…
It doesn’t matter how minor the indiscretion if you cannot express who you are, you are dying.
Was not having child care for a while a big deal? No. Was me not doing anything that lights me up and judging the part of me that is drawn to my work completely zapping my joy? Absolutely.
And here’s what I’ve realized: some of us are just better at feeling like shit than others. I have no tolerance for being anyone other than who I am truly am anymore. My whole system shuts down and I can’t function. What about you? I think it’s an important thing to know about yourself, how well do you “push” through the pain and put up with having a life that isn’t really yours?
This is the first “normal” week I’ve had in a long time, and I’m really feeling the effects of being out of alignment for so long. I feel like the life has been zapped out of me and I need to slowly do the work to come back to life.
SOOOOOOOOO I decided it was time for another LIVE MORE CHALLENGE!!!! Because I need it like whoa, and I would love to have a couple thousand women do it with me :). #shamelessextrovert
I’ve already been doing some of the things in the challenge on my own, and whoa. I am constantly blown away by how these small things can have such a huge impact on my spirit.
Here’s what I need you to know: Dance isn’t just dance. Lipstick isn’t just lipstick. Flowers aren’t just flowers. These seemingly meaningless, even shallow things, can be so easy to pass up, but these tiny details have a significant impact. They are little phone lines to your most self-expressed, live-out-loud, fulfilled, alive self. It’s important. I don’t want you to lose that part of you.
And connecting with that alive version of yourself is the precursor to you being who you truly are in the world: body, mind, and spirit.
The Live More Challenge is here to stoke your inner fire. Sign up for free here.
I’m surprised at how the seemingly small changes made such a big impact on my thoughts and feelings. I have already found a little more happiness with myself. I have found myself feeling happier overall, being more positive, and just feeling overall better about my life. I honestly can’t even put completely into words the impact this challenge has had on me so far. I’ve had a really hard time committing to other types of “weigh less” challenges in the past and it taught me that it was okay to lie to myself. That’s a horrible thing – knowing that you can lie to yourself and it will be okay. But this challenge – the one I said I would commit to no matter what was thrown at me – has renewed my faith in myself. I CAN stick to something when I really want to, despite all other things in my life. I needed this reminder of how to really commit to me. ~ @angiesmitchell
When we have a lot going on, which I know you do, it’s impossible to make these things a priority, so you need an accountability partner, or three. Someone who maybe needs you as much as you need them. Someone who will tell you, “YES, leave the laundry and come to dance with me.” Who is that for you? Forward them this email now.
On April 10th I am leading my 6th Live More Challenge, a totally free experience that gives you a small thing (with big impact) to do every day for two weeks to wake up that radiant, alive, adventurous woman inside of you, and I want you to do it with a friend. If you can’t think of anyone to invite, don’t worry, there are thousands of women who are excited to do this with you (including me), you’ll meet them once you sign up on this page.
Thank you, Sarah Jenks, for offering this challenge. It has been an illuminating two weeks. I am so grateful for the opportunity to explore some new ideas and behaviors. The social aspect of this challenge was fantastic. Daily, I found myself inspired by the risks taken and ideas explored by the other participants. It has been a joy. ~ @Tangerine_ginger
To sweeten the deal for you guys I’m giving you and your crew the opportunity to ALL win a spot in my signature program, Live More Weigh Less Mastery Membership. All you have to do is sign up for this free Challenge, and follow the rules I lay out in the welcome email. Easy Peasy.
My beliefs about myself color all of my choices. Feeling that I deserve to take time for myself has been half the battle. The beautiful thing is discovering that if I do take that time, if I truly pay attention, small things make a huge impact. I have really struggled in my life looking for other people to tell me I have worth, that I am lovable and that I matter. I have been working on getting that acceptance from myself. This challenge has put so much of that work into action. I am truly amazed at what a difference it is making. Thank you @sarahjenks! ~@jdale3wkg
I’m so excited to have you and your friends in the Live More Challenge. You can sign up now by clicking on this link.
P.S. Here’s a few incredible results women experienced from the challenge:
Hi Sarah! I’m new to your community but my introduction couldn’t have come at a better time. I’m a 31 year old SAHM to a 4 year old little girl. In August–after 2.5 years of secondary infertility–I learned that it is no longer possible for me to get pregnant. While this didn’t come as a complete surprise, it was still quite a blow. It is a hardship for my husband and me, and recently the grief was really starting to strangle my heart. I could feel myself withdrawing from my beautiful life. I was (am) struggling existentially and grasping for anything to find purpose and meaning, or, at the very least, spark personal growth. Then randomly (or perhaps not?) your “Live More Challenge” came across my news feed. I had no idea what the challenge would entail but I didn’t let that stop me…I signed up straightaway. I was a little unsure about what to expect but after receiving your email with the details, I couldn’t help but smile. Each day I find myself looking forward to the next day’s challenge. And after only 3 days, I can honestly say that I can already feel the darkness starting to lighten. So this is a sincere, heartfelt thank you. A thank you for giving me the perfect jumping off point to my journey of self discovery. A thank you for giving me a community of women to seek help and support. A thank you for challenging me to take care of myself when I seemed to need it the most. A thank you for being a ray of light.
I am really looking forward to the rest of the challenge and to becoming inspired by you and other beautiful women along the way! Cheers!
You have no idea how happy I am to have found your account! You are beautiful and I adore what you’re teaching! I’ve allowed my weight to dictate EVERYTHING for soooooo long and recently made the decision to really and truly change my thinking. I feel free for the first time in years and I want to radiate happiness and love, not self consciousness and self loathing. I’ve been working on all of it and to find another like-minded gal like you is awesome!! Thank you! ~ @lemmonkisses
Thank you @sarahjenks for opening our eyes to a much bigger world. You have shown us that no matter how much crazy there is in our life, we should be the star that shines the brightest. We can all trust ourselves a little more and be happy with ourselves a little more, and most of love ourselves a lot more! It’s been a fun journey! ~@mcovey83