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There was a time in our lives when we’d run around like 6 year olds cracked out on sugar and caffeine. Disorganized, overwhelmed and overworked, we spent our lives pounding the pavement hoping that someday our hard work would lead to relaxation, lots of money, hot bodies and healthy relationships.

But all we got were empty bank accounts, raging emotional eating disorders and terrible sex lives.

And, we’d do so much for other people that there was nothing left for us besides that pint of ice cream in the fridge to soothe us.  We said “yes” to everything, leaving us no time for our partners.  We worked and worked and worked, hoping it would lead to financial security, but all we got we chronic colds and digestive issues.

We were operating under the assumption, that pain will lead to pleasure.

Do you ever find yourself believing that?

…That if you just put in a ton of hours at work now… then you’ll get a raise and be able to pull back…

…Just power through that To-Do list, and then you’ll feel so much better…

…Focus on the kids this year, and next year we’ll go on vacation just the two of us…

…Try really hard to only eat vegetables this week, then you’ll lose ten pounds, feel great and then go shopping…

But the raise, the break, the confidence, the exhale… never actually happens, does it?

It wasn’t until we made a choice, a choice to believe that pleasure and happiness NOW leads to pleasure and happiness later.

So we created completely new lifestyles.  In the beginning, we thought it was going to be impossible.  I mean, can you really work less and make more, eat what you want and lose weight and create a beautiful relationship out of thin air?

What we discovered was, yes, you can.  But it takes a certain environment in order to create lasting change, fast.

There’s something magical that happens when you are pulled into a vortex of revolution.  A vortex of supportive women, fearless leaders, life changing workshops and experiential adventures.

You see, when you have the opportunity to really experience the “good life” with your whole being, and are given the structure to make sure it sticks when you go home, you can’t help but be a changed woman.

And living the “good life” isn’t just about being happy and relaxed all the time, though you will feel like that. This is important to us because it’s the only way we’ve found to actually create what we really want: a body we love, an amazing relationship and all the financial success we desire.  To really Live Free.

We’ve explained more about how this works on our retreat page here.

We’ve created an incredible weekend in wine country designed to set you up for the life you’ve always wanted.  It’s going to be impactful, challenging, gorgeous and a total blast.

It would be an honor if you could join us.

Since you’ve already expressed interest in Live Free, we wanted to give you first dibs on one of the limited spots available. We’re going to be opening it up to the public in 48 hours and we imagine the spaces are going to go really fast.

You can learn all about Live Free and RSVP by clicking here: Live Free Retreat Information.

See you there:)

Love,

Sarah and Nisha

P.S. We can’t wait to dive into all of the amazing questions we’ve received during the live Q&A happening tonight at 7pm ET / 4pm PT. Click here to join us when the event begins.

Are you tired of feeling anxious? My top 7 ways to embody ease.

A few days ago, I took the baby to meet my friend Nisha for lunch.  That morning, I was dealing with dirty diapers, dishes and general domestic disarray.  It would’ve been so easy to call her and cancel — she would understand, right?  But I’ve been through situations like this enough times to know exactly what I need to do to feel better.

So I got the baby comfortable and focused on me for a minute.  After 30 minutes I managed to leave the house looking super hot (if I do say so myself!) with a calm baby in tow.  I met Nisha at one of our favorite cafe’s and she’d had an “interesting” morning, too, planning for her upcoming website launch and managing her own version of crazy.

As I sit here today, I’m reflecting on the tone of the moment — me doing an epic juggling act to just get out of the house (did I mention I looked hot?!) and Nisha playing the chess game of sustaining her business while planning a launch (any entrepreneur knows how challenging this can be).  Yet both of us were taking time for ourselves and our friendship (which ultimately serve the baby and the business), and neither of us were weighed down with anxiety.  In fact, we were both happy, smiling…even relaxed.

There was a time when we didn’t look this way.  I remember sipping tea with Nisha years ago, high on caffeine and nerves that our next launches had to be perfect, that our websites weren’t going to be done on time, and what if we ended up missing the boat to motherhood?  To be honest, we were kind of Anxious Annie’s.

But what we learned is that being stressed and worried doesn’t help you produce better results…if anything, you actually make more mistakes because you’re not paying attention.

Anxiety is a gas guzzler, not fuel for motivation. {tweet it}

Listen, we’re not perfect.  We have our moments of feeling like we’re flailing and failing, too — we’re human! But what we’ve learned to do is find the calm in the storm and get back to grounded.  Through learning how to be both focused and calm- truly embodying ease- we’ve learned to be so grounded in ourselves that we feel like powerful women.  We want that for you, too… because when you’re always running, you miss the beauty all around you.

Below, we’ve put together our Top 7 Ways to Embody Ease.

On Wednesday, we started our LIVE FREE Online Event with talking about the intersection of Ambition & Ease.  You can get the recording here if you missed the live class.  Next week, on Wednesday, April 16th you’ll have the opportunity to be personally coached by us.  We’ll be digging into your biggest work/life conundrums and coaching you to find clear solutions for having the success you want.  You can sign up here.

Sarah & Nisha’s Top 7 Ways to Embody Ease

1. Dress your body beautifully.

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I wanted to share this photo, which I took in an airport bathroom. I had put on frumpy travel clothes and in a moment of clarity realized that I felt crappy because I wasn’t dressed beautifully.  When you take a few moments to select an outfit and jewelry you feel frickin’ fantastic in…even on a Tuesday…you’re going to have a better day.  Your body is the home of your soul.  She is your temple.  Do you throw any old junk on your temple, or do you adorn her in things that represent your reverence for Her?  Even if you’re feeling far-from-loving towards your body, this is critical, because this is how you cultivate the appreciation that has you and your body feel like true life partners.  Is there something small you can do right now to tend to your temple?

2. Enjoy gorgeous food.

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Before you sit down to eat, are you aware of how beautiful your plate looks?  In life, beauty causes us to pause in appreciation.  When no attention is put on cultivating beauty, there are fewer opportunities to slow down and enjoy.  By simply adding a sprig of herbs or some edible flowers to your plate, or carefully arranging each dish to appeal to your aesthetic sensibility, you will naturally find yourself in appreciation.  When you’re appreciating your food, you eat slower.  When you eat slower, you taste more.  When you eat slower and taste more, you derive maximum enjoyment from your food and end up eating just the right amount for your beautiful body.  Taking care of your body often has less to do with eating the perfectly-perfect thing at the perfect time, and more to do with crafting a beautiful experience and enjoying.

3. Break the weekend rules.

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For some reason, much of the world has agreed to adopt the “work your ass off, then you can play” mentality, which means weekends are our only hope for fun and our only opportunity for release.  This is when we break loose and eat whatever we want to eat, drink whatever we want to drink, and finally enjoy life…for 48 hours.  Then, we spend the next 120 hours miserable, dreaming of that precious 48 to come ‘round again.  This sucks!  Who says we have to buy into that crazy crap?!  When you bring some of your favorite weekend activities into your weekdays (lunch with friends, dinner on the patio, cocktail hour, etc), your LIFE feels awesome — not just your weekends.  What can you do this week to infuse more weekend energy into your Monday-Friday?

4. Stop to smell the roses…then bring them to work.

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Do you ever walk by shops that have flowers outside, or have flowers springing up along the sidewalks in your neighborhood?  How often do you stop to smell those flowers?  This simple act of slowing down for just a minute (yes, even you can spare 1 minute) is enough to hit the reset button on your mental state.  Most women get into a super masculine mode at work — we “buckle down” and “suck it up” in order to “make it happen”.  Phew.  Yes, business requires planning and plenty of action, but do you have to be a stress case while you’re doing it?  Bring some pleasure into your workspace and work day, and integrate your feminine flow with your masculine focus.

5. Invest in your aliveness.

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Most of us find it much easier to justify spending money (and time) on replacing a broken dishwasher, developing a business strategy and buying new shoes for the kids, than we do on investing in ourselves.  It’s not to say that your clean dishes, business success and kids’ footwear aren’t important — they are!  But how about you — the woman holding it all together?  How are you holding up… are you hanging on by a thread or fully-alive and thriving?  This year, I invested my time and money in a gorgeous book writing retreat & a boudoir photoshoot, so I could be more deeply connected with my sexy. Nisha fulfilled my long-time dream of traveling to Peru & also had a boudoir photoshoot — a gift to myself for her 34th bday.  These things don’t give us instant money, but they do give us instant — and lasting — satisfaction.  Invest in your aliveness.

6. Live in the most beautiful place on earth.

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How do you feel when you walk into your home?  Do you look around and see piles of crap and a bunch of unfinished business…or do you see gorgeous flowers and a clean, inviting space that totally feels like you?  If your home is less than a sanctuary, take an hour to love it up this evening.   Arrange a stack of your favorite books on your coffee table, put away stray jackets or shoes, dust the surfaces and light a candle.  Bonus points if you can add a fresh flower arrangement.  Your home is the nest for your precious body and your valuable ideas — shouldn’t it be the best nest it can be?

7. Appreciate other women.

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You’ve probably noticed (or felt victim of) the social hierarchy amongst women.  We tend to compare ourselves to one another based on our income, weight, relationship status, education, and so on.  Every single time you appreciate the unique beauty (inside and out) of your sisters, you’re doing your part to break down that social hierarchy, to be real friends, confidants and soul sisters.  Nisha and I should know — we used to be super jealous of each other, until we focused on the very real admiration we have for each other.

We can’t wait to talk about all of this and more with you on Wednesday. If you haven’t signed up yet, visit LiveFreeRetreat.com.

Love Always,

Sarah

Hang with me, Gabby Bernstein and Nisha IN PERSON. (Bay Area peeps listen up!)

I’m so excited to be hosting my friend Gabby Bernstein’s San Francisco book launch for the second year in a row.  It was such a thrill to meet so many of the women in this community in person last year, and I can’t wait to exchange lots of hugs again.  This year Nisha is joining me as a co-host, which we’re pumped about.  Also, Marshall is probably going to make an appearance;). The event is on April 24th from 7-9pm PT.

I was so excited to receive an advance copy of Gabby’s new book, Miracles Now in the final days of my pregnancy.  One of my favorite things to do is open a book randomly and trust that the words on the page is a message I’m meant to hear at that moment.  Since Gabby’s new book is an easily digestible collection of short tools with one page instructions on how to use it in your life, it’s perfect for this fun habit of mine.

Eight days after my due date with no labor signs in sight, I was feeling incredibly frustrated and discouraged.  Of course I opened right up to “#57 Surrender it all”. It was just the reminder I needed to let it all go.  The next morning my water broke.  Of course.

Gabby’s work has always brought so much ease and clarity to my life, I hope you’ll come out on April 24th to W Hotel San Francisco to see what I mean. You can reserve your ticket here.

I can’t wait to see you!

Love,

Sarah

How to hustle and flow

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A year ago, I gathered some girlfriends together for a gorgeous brunch, to celebrate our friend Nisha’s big move to San Francisco.

As we sat around the table, laughing and talking, I took a moment of quiet reflection…  It had been just 7 weeks since Nisha made the decision to move to my city, and there she was — a full-fledged resident and living just up the street from me.  Being that I was just 14 weeks pregnant, I was so grateful to have her here.

Nisha and I often have women say to us, “It’s wonderful that you have these leisurely lives, but don’t you sometimes have to hustle?  What about getting s#it done?”  The answer is: Yes!  Of course we hustle at times (and we get a LOT done)…life would be super boring if all we did was lie around reading magazines, with no ambitions.

What we both believe in, though, is honoring the rhythm that feels most natural and expansive to us.  We give ourselves plenty of space to play and dream, then — when a moment of clarity (or pregnancy, in my case!) hits us and we make a decision — we waste no time making s#it happen.  Hustling isn’t a way of life any more than lounging is — they are both valuable aspects of our lives, and each needs its own sacred space to unfold. {tweet it}

When I found out I was pregnant, I sprung into action, getting my announcement photos done, zig-zagging across the country to visit both my and Jonathan’s parents to tell them in person, getting Live More Weigh Less Mastery ready for an early launch (9 months earlier than planned) and mapping out my Parisian babymoon.

When Nisha realized it was time to move to San Francisco, she hustled quickly, booking her movers within 48 hours, giving notice on  her NY apartment, looking at 23 apartments in San Francisco until she found the perfect one, and spending time with her friends in NYC.

Because we respect both hustle AND leisure time, we can fully appreciate and inhabit the space we’re in.  When we hustle, we don’t freak out and get overwhelmed, because we know it’s temporary.  When we lounge, we don’t freak out that nothing is getting done, because we know it’s temporary.  So vacillating between these spaces can be fun and pleasurable.

At our LIVE FREE Online Event, starting next week, we are going to teach you how to do both: how to be a hustler and a lady of leisure like you really mean business.  Too much of one or the other is unsustainable, and frankly, a boring way to live.

To sign up, click here: LiveFreeRetreat.com.

We can’t wait to see you.

Love,

Sarah